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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of 6 months is very athletic. He plays sports, goes to the gym and works out everyday. Some days he showers three times and uses body spray after each shower. I don't want him to think I am weird, but I like the way he smells when he doesn't shower. We started having sex 3 months ago. The first time was very spontaneous. We went back to his apartment after his softball game and the sex was fantastic. A few times after that we had sweaty sex and each time my orgasms seem to be much more intense when we make love and he is a bit musky. When he is covered in body spray I usually cannot get turned on at all.I cannot figure out why he showers so much and uses so much body spray, because he is always telling me that I smell nice when I am not even wearing perfume. My mom always told me that girls are supposed to be all neat and tidy, so I shower every day, but I stopped using perfume. Even TV commercials tell us girls we have to be "Springtime Fresh" and guys have to douse themselves in body spray. It's they way society is today and I am afraid if I tell him that I prefer to have sweaty sex with him, he will think I am trailer park trash. But on the other hand I like orgasms too. So, how do I tell him I like sex with him better when he hasn't showered?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): Thanks to all for your honest answers. I feel better hearing positive feedback from all of you. The guys too. I don't feel so unusual now with all of you agreeing about the body spray.I jumped my guy after he got in from his ball game Friday night and the sex was fantastic. He actually noticed that my orgasm was more intense and asked me what was different. So I told him flat out that I hated his body spray and wanted him to smell natural. Guess what?? He said he actually hates the freakin' body spray, but he saw a TV commercial and thought it's what girls want.He also said that he likes me a bit musky too when we are going at it. So, no more clean sex anymore! Thank you all for giving me the confidence to confront him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): Napoleon sent a message to Josephine when he was two days away from Paris: "Do not bathe."
The natural smell of your lover is a powerful stimulus. Axe, on the other hand, might be OK on the subway, but it sucks in the bedroom.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (4 September 2009):
Tell him you LOVE his natural smell and it makes you so hot. He will be so excited and want to please you he wont put on that stuff again. Guys will do anything to make you hot and its a simple as get all sweaty in the fun way he wont think twice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009):
Don't be ashamed of how you feel. If he ever starts thinking you are trash I really doubt this would be the reason.
There is some science behind what you are feeling. Certain people are attracted to the natural smell of others. Researchers are figuring this out.
And I think birth control pills can even reduce the effect somehow. Weird, huh?
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reader, mediocreland +, writes (3 September 2009):
Just keep telling him to lay off the body spray when it's just you two. If he's going out somewhere I would understand the need for the body spray, but if you guys are just hanging out alone? That would get annoying even if you didn't like how he smelled without it.
I heard somewhere the other day that girls are naturally attracted to the "natural" smell of their guy, so I'd say just go with it. You don't have to full on tell him you like him when he's sweaty, just say "hey honey could you lay off the body spray? It's a little overpowering" Or just jump him before he showers if you have to. If it leads to more sex then maybe he'll connect the dots himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): To each his own, repeat the last sentence of your post to him and I think he will get it.
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