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writes:So this is a strange question. Ever since i was young, i wanted to be a guy. not in a literal sense, but i like to wear guys clothes, i like things most girls dont, i dont have the best manners, i dont really care much about being feminine, i dislike girly-girls (exceptions, of course). I mean, from time to time I'll get dressed up or indulge in a chick flick, but I usually just end up making fun of this sort of stuff. But I am definitely not lesbian. I was never really attracted to guys other than the initial psychical attraction. Ive had plenty of crushes and what not, but once I start to get close to a guy, I sort of get disinterested. I recently realized that I am probably bi or something to that effect. I really think Im more asexual. I like the idea of romance, it just doesnt work for me. Is this normal or completely off?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 There's no such thing as normal when it comes to how you are as a person. The behaviour might be abnormal in the sense that most people aren't like you, but it is quite normal in the sense that there are so many other "abnormal" people out there, and everyone, when it comes down to it, are different.
You might be surprised by all the thoughts people really think, or their secret desires and wishes. Most don't live it out, or carry their emotions are their sleeves, which is why you kind of see a big herd of people all looking the same, seemingly acting and thinking the same, and you feel you stand out.
But no, not really. You don't sound weird at all, and I've encountered far more outstanding or "abnormal" people in my life, even if I have never met someone quite like you before.
Having a crush and then loosing interest is a common occurrence. It happens when your feelings for the person weren't sincere or deep, but only on a shallow level. As you get close you loose interest because they weren't as fascinating as you had made them out to be. When you get close to a person you genuinely have feelings for, you will grow even more attached to them as you get to know them, not loose interest, but become more interested. Bottom line: you're aiming at the wrong guys, or haven't met anyone special yet. Don't worry, it can take it's time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011): Well if I may... I'm a romantic guy... But I only had one big love in life till now.What I can say is that I can't stand being with the wrong person for too long and I lose interest in that person quick... (don't know if that's your problem)I don't see a point in spending time with the wrong one... Yeah I like sex... But sometimes it seams stupid to sleep with a person only because of her body... I want more than just bodys together! But it's not a problem... I only see it as if I didn't found the right girl yet...All you have to ask yourself now is simple:A boy and a girl in front of you naked! Which one you feel attracted to?Oh and by being a bit different from most girls and liking football or other - more guy type of stuff - don't makes you a guy or a bi-girl.... Just makes you unique.... There is probably a guy there sayin' man I want a gurl that swears cuss and drink beer like me....... So don't worry... :)Just ask yourself what rings your bell in sex time... Either way (boy or girl) don't worry... You just didn't found the right one yet ;) Hope I could helpGood luck
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 No, you are being you, so that's fine.
Only question I'd have is while getting close to a guy and becoming disinterested what are you feeling?
: insecure or cautious or uncomfortable or afraid, anger.... What are the emotions when you get close to a guy?
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