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anonymous
writes: Hi all. I'll post this quite quickly as I dont have much time this morning. Me and my bf have been struggling for a while and as scarey as this may be, we have decided to have a break from eachother for a month. This is basically going to involve not meeting up for a month but we'll talk on the phone. Today is day one. I dont feel too bad about it, in fact I feel almost positive?! It's cos I love him deeply and he feels the same way and I think we both want to save the relationship. Has anyone got any advice as to how to cope with feelings of missing someone and sadness when you are on a break? I know they are going to kick in soon...Also, anyones personal experience of how being on a break affected their relationship in a positive way? God Bless and thanks for reading.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 May 2011):
I've never known any relationship that i "took a break" from to survive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011): I think a break is not a good idea and if you want to work on the relationship you could take some space for a month. A break usually happens when the guy meets someone else and wants to give that girl a fair shot to see if there is potential without his girlfriend interfering. A break ensures his girlfriend won't move on, in case he still wants her, and he won't feel guilty cheating. Taking space from a relationship still bounds both people to the commitment, a break does not. A break is a break up.
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (3 May 2011):
Personally, I don't understand the 'having a break' to save the relationship theory. I would think you'd have to work together, to stay together. So I will be interested to see the advice you get. Good luck with it all.
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