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writes:i'd like a boyfriend and when i think about having one i think it'd be great, but then when i'm around a boy that likes me ... things change and i feel like i'm being pressured into things. i've never been pressured into anything but i don't understand why when i'm on my own and i think about having a boyfriend, i'm all for it but when i'm faced with someone who wants to be with me ... i make up reasons to push them away. is there something wrong with me? or is this normal? Reply to this Question
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reader, ilanah tromans +, writes (1 August 2011):
 this is exactly the same situation i always get into its completely normal, make sure that if you do get into a relationship you dont get pressured into doing anything a relationship isnt all about that... when you find someone that wont pressure you then it will be right to get into a relationship with them, hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2011): It depends what you feel like you're being pressured into, sweetie! If you're referring to sex, chances are you know you aren't ready for it and push prospective suitors away as a sort of avoidance tactic (i.e.: if you don't have a boyfriend, you won't have the pressure of being expected to become sexually active).
I was like that at your age; I'd have loved to have had a boyfriend, but although there were opportunities I never took them for fear of feeling obliged to be intimate. I stayed single until I was 18 (and a half!), because only by that point did I feel mature enough to handle all that a relationship entailed - with a man whom I loved dearly and trusted completely too. As the previous poster said, it has to be the right guy :) So don't worry. When it's time, your heart will be sure to let you know. Good luck and take care x
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Kinda sounds like you haven't met the right man yet.
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