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*igryan0301
writes: Hey....Well I got a mega problem....I like my best friends girl friend and my best friend is like my own brother almost...And in the past he treated her badly and i have feelings for her but i don't know what to do becuz he is my best friend/bro... What should i do becuase i almost mess around with her alot and talk to her and i dont know what to do about this problem please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): Yeah tuff one. I'm in the exact same situation but I've taken it further with her. I should probably feel guilty, but I don't and either does she. How does she feel about you? If she likes you in the same way then go for it. Your friend will get over it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): hey there is no need to feel bad her, what you feel for this girl is a strong love from your friendship and this is totally natural, do what u and ur heart thinks is right here. don't worry about ur best friend. if he notices or says anything just explain the situation to him and let him no that u r jus friends but u feel very strongly for her. it will be just fine, hope this helps
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reader, miss nancy +, writes (9 January 2007):
right listen, u dont go there! let your mate be happy, say you were with her would you want him to steal her from you? put yourself in his shoes! and if shes messing round with you, then it just shows you cant trust her, if you dont want to listen dont, but when it turns out badly, you only have yourself to blame, and your best mate wont be there to help you and support you if she brakes your heart.
heres a choice your mate or her? its up to you, but think before you act...if you need futher advise and you think this advise is good add me on msn or email me [email address blocked]
-x-kate-x-
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): Maybe she'll break up with him. You didn't say how long they've been seeing each other, or if it was "serious". Give it time. My guess is, she'll get enough of this bloke and dump him at some point and then you will be there to pick up the pieces of her broken heart.
In the meantime don't keep torturing yourself. Find other people to hang out with; other things to do. Put some distance on the problem and see what happens. If she stays with him, there's nothing you can do but move on.
Good luck.
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reader, ingotblue +, writes (9 January 2007):
I would say leave her be, if the relationship is going to fail then it will of its own accord. Dont let it be because of you because friendship is not worth loosing over a girl.
He is your best friend almost a brother, how would you feel if you split them up he hated you and she dumped you?
leave things as they are and if it ends then so be it.
leave it for a while then when you feel hes not hurting then ask him how he would feel if you were to see her.
Give it all time and you might find that you dont want to be wih her any way
good luck
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (9 January 2007):
If i was you i would stay well clear. It is never advisable to even contemplate messsing around with your best friends girl.
If you do decide to go ahead and persue this girl then you will probablly lose the friendship with your best friend for a long long time, if not forever.
Its not worth the agro fella, go out and get a girl of your own. If it was reversed would you forgive your mate if he took your girl.
Don't go there.....
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