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writes:So i have a best friend. That i have known for some time now maybe a year or two we met and just really hit it off and got really close and know we live together for College and reasons that we are poor :(. He recently got this girl and we where all sooo happy for him because well he never gets girls and honestly i am always the friend with a girl friend. As i was dating a girl at the time i thought nothing of it just a really cute nice girl that is awesome im excited to hang out with her and get to know her. Well as time went on i dumped my gf for reasons w.e. Either way this girl never ended up dating my friend because she didn't wanna leave her long 3 year long BF that she had so my friend never actually got to date her they just had sex. This was my friends first time ever having sex so he grew very attached. Either way this girl came to me for advice knowing that i have well idk had sex with a lot of girls... per say... SO! i helped her out and told her what to do and know she is having self respect and telling my friend that she just wants to be friends and not just have sex. which is good but as i helped her we hung out and talked a lot about the situation and well grew a bond. Now we text all the time and have both said that we like each other a lot and idk. My friend we will call him N. Is her best friend and my Best friend we both love N with all our hearts and never want to hurt him... So What do i do? Or We? Do we just ignore that we could have something amazing and it just sucks that i met her though my best friend? Or do i say well shes no game now? and is that in it self avoiding destiny? Do we sneak around and wait a couple years to tell him? Someone PLEASE help :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): I completely agree, leave this as it is, just remain friends. If you try something with her it may or may not work out but you WILL ruin this friendship with the guy and lose the girl at the same time. There are lots of girls out there but it's hard to find real friends. Complete side note are you saying that this girl was dating a guy for 3 years, didn't want to break up with him, but instead thought it was ok to have sex with another guy? If so that is not a good person and you shouldn't want to date someone like that anyway it shows she has no respect for a relationship.
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reader, xnickx +, writes (29 June 2010):
 Hey :) anytime
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reader, ReapRHTB +, writes (29 June 2010):
ReapRHTB is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks a bunch Nick :)
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reader, xnickx +, writes (29 June 2010):
Sneaking around will only get you caught eventually.Here's your options.You could have something amazing with ths girl at the expense of your best friend. He will be very hurt by this. He's grown attached to her, for whatever reason, and he will feel betrayed by you if you take this person he cares so much about.Or you could stick by your best friend who has been there for you, remain supportive of him, and pass on this chance. Besides, she already has a bf of 3 years. I'd leave them alone.You say you sleep with a lot of girls so i imagine you being the confident type. You should have no trouble finding another girl that suits you.And in case it helps, i don't believe in destiny or that there's any "one" girl. Its all a matter of personal decision and any girl can be the "one". Depends on how open minded you arenick
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