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writes:ok so I like y best friend's ex-girlfriend. I'll explain how it happened:ok so my bestfriend and I used to live in the same town and one time my friend told me he was dating a girl from a nearby town that he met in a church convention. I never met her while they were dating. on time he just showed me a pic of her. But at that time I didnt felt nothing for her, but i noticed she was a pretty girl. they were going out acouple f months but he broke up with her. and not a long time ago i moved to a different town. and I met her in my new church at 1st I didnt felt anything but as I got to know her better I started to have feelings for her. I didnt know what to do. I dont feel as if i had betrayed my best friend since i never met her while they were dating. I already told her what i feel for her and she told me she wants time since she just broke up with her ex (not my best friend). I also told my best friend about my feelings for his ex. he asked me if i had met any girls in this town and if i was interested in a particular one. at 1st i felt that it was going to be awkard if i told him but i deciced to tell him that i had feelings for his ex. He was fine with that (well that's what he said but sometimes it seems he still have feelings for her) I told my friend because i wanted to let him know about it instead of finding this out from someone else who might add things that i didnt said. anyways i dont know what to do. She doesnt know why my friend broke up with her. so i feel more awkward since i know the reason. He broke up with her because he didnt have a way to go and see her at her house (since she lives in another town). The mom of this girl always took her to see him and she even told my best friend's parents that she would even pick him up but that they would have to pick him up. but they said no (they are very strict parents,specially his dad).he didnt had a car and his parents never let him use their car. so i feel very awkward..i already told her that i'll give her sometime...i even told her to be honest with me but she just told me that she was heartbroken..but i want her to let me know if she just sees me like a friend or what she thinks about this. but she just says she doesnt know (idk)...so yeah sometimes i think it would be better to move on but i seriously dont know what to do..what's even worse is that her ex also goes to the same church we go to. somtimes i think she doesnt want to go out with me because she doesnt want to ruin my friendship with my best friend. what should i do???
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Thanks for the follow up. Sounds like you made the right choice. She may not be ready. It wasn't too much to ask where you stood. Courting her is one thing, but you should at least have an idea of where you stand, or what's the point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thanks for your reply, I decided to move on, she was playing the game "hard to get"....one time I gave her a teddy bear and she seemed she didnt care, she just said thanks and threw the bear inside her car..anyways, thanks for your advice...every time we talked, she pretended that she didnt knew I had feelings for her. but I tried and tried and she kept playing that game, she kept asking for time, and I agreed but I wanted to know if I least i had a chance with her, but she would only say that I seemed a nice guy...
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 November 2010):
Well, since you're being honest with everyone then follow your heart. Really, the reason her and your friend broke up doesn't matter. They had their chance and it didn't work. It probably wouldn't work if they tried it again either.
If you like her, then go for it. It was important for you to talk to your friend about this because of their past together. That being done, blessings received, then give it a shot when she's ready.
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