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writes:im 20 and this guy i work with who i have become friends with told me he fancies me. thing is i do really like him personality wise but sometimes i look at him and say "yeh i fancy him" and other times i think "theres no physical attraction", its like i can make up my mind. what should i do? what should i tell him?
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (26 March 2007):
 You need to relax and not force this. So what if you do just feel friendship for him? Just coz he's a guy and you're a girl doesn't mean there has to be an attraction. He fancies you, great, but if you don't then nothing has to happen - just be good friends.
Us women can be very indecisive at times: do we fancy him? Do we love them? etc etc. Call it hormones or just us being picky, whatever you want to say, but we do like to mess about a bit before we make a decision about people. Take your time, don't rush into this as he might not turn out to be the guy you thought.
So don't do anything yet. Act like a friend to him and, if he asks what's going on with you two, tell him you're not sure and would appreciate just being friends for now. If you feel comfortable telling him you just want to be friends, do that but some people feel this may scare them off for good. But if he really likes you, he will wait until you decide.
It sounds like you're forcing this too much: many men will fancy you in your lifetime but you don't have to like all of them. Surely the first spark between you and the man you're supposed to be with should be stronger than this? Take your time, it may become something beautiful with time. Or it may not, only time will tell.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007): Maybe then you just like him as a friend. But remember, if you feel that it is more, that personality is more than looks. After all, we all lose our looks once we get old.
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reader, home_land  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 hello
if you think that you fancy him so why not to try becouse you cant love what you dont know and maybe hi is a real man that will make you happy and looking attractive or sexy it is not important but if you are serching for sexy body that is another thing so ask your self"WHAT DO I REALLY WANT"
good luck
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reader, mel2 +, writes (26 March 2007):
Hi, there is only one way to find out and that is go out for a drink with him for one hour, tell him before hand that you have to visit someone but have the time for a quick drink if he fancies one! If you find your having fun flirt a little and make a proper date. Good luck!
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