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writes:Basically, i really like this guy and have liked him for ages im 14 and so is he and we are in the same form. we did start seein eachother but he dumped me after a day. now he knows i like him still and he has said that he still likes me. my friends are saying that he is not mature yet and that i should forget him but i just cant. he is a little bit shy so we text alot and we do flirt at school. i really want to start seein him because he ses it wasnt his fault the reason that he dumped me last time but he wont tell me why he did. what should i do??
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (16 November 2007):
 Okay -
Not necessarily a BAD reply, but also maybe NOT a good one.
If you think that it was just maybe because he was put on the spot, then try again.
I don't understand what it means when he said: Do you wanna get off this weekend? Was he asking you to spend time with him in one way or another? Errr, i think it does???
Well, then if that is the case, then i really think he is interested. But, maybe he said no, because he felt "put on the spot", so TRY AGAIN...
Maybe find out from someone what he really likes doing, and suggest something to him.
Good luck - don't give up - YET...
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reader, Jules22 +, writes (15 November 2007):
Jules22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question here what happened. the right moment came when we were alone in da form room. BUT...he asked me wether i wanted get off with him at da weekend. wierd i know. i was taken by suprise and just kinda mumbled summit. and he went bright red. den i said, do you wanna come to see a film or somthing at the weekend. he said no and i said i think im busy anyway. that all happened within about 5 seconds because i was talkin really fast and so was he. NOW WHAT???
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, Mistify +, writes (12 November 2007):
The best way to do this, is to be straight.
Do you have his phone number? Maybe text him.. He will definitely be surprised, but then he wont feel 'put on the spot'. If you don't have his phone number, ask him during class, or just before that you want to speak to him for a minute after class. Then you tell him - you would like to go see this movie (choose one) and ask if he'd like to go along...
i know its tough, but the worst that could happen, is that he says no. And then you have your answer anyway.
Good luck.
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reader, Jules22 +, writes (11 November 2007):
Jules22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks that is really great advice. I will definatly try it but what is the best way to ask if he wants to see a movie or somthing??
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reader, Mistify +, writes (11 November 2007):
Maybe this guy was just scared of what would happen if he really started having a serious relationship. Maybe he realized that although he liked you, he wasn't yet ready for a relationship, and maybe he just didn't know what to do next...
Very tricky situation. Look, your friends might be right, or the might not, but only YOU will know. If you really like him that much, and really want to give it a go, then why don't you initiate a meeting. Go for a movie, or go have a burger together somewhere. Just the two of you.
Then you have a chat with him. Ask him how he really feels, but just keep in mind, that guys don't like being PUT ON THE SPOT, so be gentle.
If he doesn't want to meet with you alone, then maybe you should take that as an answer.
If he really likes you, he'll stop being so shy, and start showing some REAL interest.
Good luck girl. Let us know what happens
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