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writes:Heyy (:So, my boyfriend recently broke up with me. This really hurt because i'd never been dumped before, and he was the first boy i really liked (maybe even loved)but after a month or two, i accepted it, and now i think i'm over it.Anyway, once we broke up, i started talking to his best friend more. He helped me to understand how my ex felt about the whole situation, and made me realise than he treated me really badly and i deserve better. I was really surprised he took my side over his best friends, but he told me they may be best friends, but him breaking up with me was the dumbest thing he'd ever done. which really cheered me up (:Well, this past month or so, i've been talking to my ex's best friend everyday and really growing closer to him but... i'm scared.After seeing how badly my ex was treating me, i felt abit of anger towards him... and although i really do think i genuinly like his best friend, i don't want to like him for all the wrong reasons (like to make my ex jealous) and i also don't want to fool myself into thinking i like him just because he helped me get over my ex. I know that his best friend may like me too... but i don't want their friendship to be ruined because of me (even though i don't think my ex cares about anything to do with me anymore. he even admitted he was basically just using me throughout the whole 4 month relationship...)This boy is also my best friends cousin, which again i see as a problem. The boy is one of my best friends too, so i don't think i could EVER hurt him, but if something goes wrong, i don't want to lose two of my best friends. I just really don't know what to do. I've known this boy even longer than i've known my ex, and i consider him a great friend but now i see him as more than that... i don't want to make the wrong decision. please helppp. :(
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 Your ex and his friends are the past so you can stop worrying about them. Once the guy you like sees that you are totally over him, you can tell if he likes you too. If he continues to see you that's a good sign. You are not yet sure if you like each other in a physical way. You are not sure if you are ready for another relationship, and you are probably not. He may just see you as sister. He's probably not going to flirt with you for a while because you just got over a break up. It's still too early and there are no decisions to make. A best friend is not going to pressure you into making one. Your ex was a wrong decision and your best friend prooves he has the good qualities that your ex didn't, but that doesn't necessarily make him your potential boyfriend.
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