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writes:I met a guy through a mutual friend a few months ago. He told our friend that he really likes me and I feel the same about him. The problem is he seems to be blowing hot and cold. He has told a number of people that he is interested in me and when I see him he acts as if he is (asking me questions, walking me home etc). The problem is he doesn't seem to make much effort to see me. A couple of months ago this guy got ill and was treated for depression and had to spend some time in hospital. I understand that he may not yet be in a place where he is ready for a relationship but I enjoy his company, amongst friends, and want to take the time to get to know him better. The thing is recently he has said he will come out one evening (again in a wider group of friends) and then he cancels at the last minute saying he is too tired. I'm starting to take it personally thinking if he's as interested in me as he says he is he would make the effort to come out! Am I over-reacting about this. Could this just be down to his health issues or is he avoiding me and if so why might that be? I haven't put any pressure on him at all to move things forward. Is this something I should pursue as I really like him? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 March 2010):
Maybe he's still depressed, in which case he may just not be able to come out. Depression is terrible, because it just sucks you in and takes so much effort to get out of. I would suggest that your best bet is to move on from him. He needs to spend time on himself and find out who he is before he can be a good boyfriend to anyone.
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