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writes: I met someone recently..i was unsure if i liked him but i knew if i was totally turned off i would have ended the date sooner (we met from online)..the first night we met at a bar and then he offered to get dinner and then we went to get another drink in his area..so he drove alot for the first date and then drove me home..he wanted to see me the next night as well so we went out for a drink.He doesnt seem to be playing much games and seems open about seeing me so my friend said go along with it then if you are interested. By the 3rd date he picked me up from work which took forver with traffic..he lives at home but has the downstairs area to himself and can take me to the back way if he wanted. He said he already told his family about me--how nice i am etc so he says u might as well meet them..he also had roses for me when i got in the car..he has been so sweet up to this point.The thing that doesn't really bother me but makes me wonder if i am being shallow is the fact.. he is a high school drop out and has been in construction for yrs.. he does have a daughter as well. It also turns out he did almost 2 yrs in jail..i believe him that it actually wasnt something he deserved..it was because of the circumstances behind it.That was years ago and he just wanted to be honest with me. Also it seems has friends who are into smoking pot and probably other drugs. His brother does it and has no job, his girlfriend is the same way. I am not used to being around people like this even though it has nothing to do with him. He even said he is staying away from certain people because he doesnt want to get involved anymore with that stuff. But i am thinking sort of long term..when you get involved---you do get involved with the family, friends etc which makes you surround this environment..Apart of me wants to keep seeing him b/c maybe i need to just give him a chance. but some part of me thinks oh maybe i am just settling b/c i found someone semi decent or something...He has alot of baggage/history....am i making a mistake?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): Take it real slow. He does have baggage, but he seems to be working at it. But it is too early for the family thing. Take it very, very slow.
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