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writes: Play hard to get, move on ... or go for it.Hi. I have just started this new job and I am now sure that this guy keeps checking me out everytime I go past his desk to get a drink. As im a man myself and we work in completely different departments I do not even know his name nor can I go and introduce myself infront of all his work colleagues. my dilema is: A) We only make eye contact each time I go to get a drink so should I not go as often and see if he makes more of an effort on the fewer times that I go (we usually make eye contact 6 times a day). B) be professional and move on, I cant openly admit to everyone at work that im gay and im sure he does not wish to either.C) Should I just leave my number on his desk while nobody else is around.... is that to wierd? I really, really like this guy, I get this strange feeling each time we make eye contact that I have never felt before. What should I do?!?
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reader, Claire1 +, writes (28 January 2006):
Hi, it sounds like you really feel something for him so perhaps you could make more of an effort to talk to him when you go and get a drink? Just start off talking about the football or some other sport. Perhaps you could organise a staff night out and get to know people who you work with more. You should be proud of who you are and be open about your sexuality. Perhaps at a staff night out you could invite some of your other gay friends and invite your work pals to a popular gay club in town, so you could all get to know each other better, and they see the real you. I have met loads of people in the workplace who live with their same sex partners where I come from, everyone is really accepting and it's seen as the norm. Obviously I don't know where you come from, but where you live, is it more difficult to be open about your sexuality? I think you should get to know this guy who you like and invite him out with your friends, with work or even alone? Perhaps you could go to a football match and if you get to know him you will find out if he is attracted to men, or find out if he is married or not? Good luck and please be yourself and don't feel you have to hide your sexuality.
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