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writes:i'm 17. ok so theres this guy. i've liked him since i've meet him and that was 2 years ago. we've never actually went out and dated, but we have messed around a couple times and stuff like that. and well i have like very very strong feelings for him. he's always on my mind and i only want him to be happy. i worry about him alot and when ever he's sad so am i. i just want him to be happy and i know i cant force him to like me, i dont know. our relationship is really confusing, like at one point he liked me but i didnt really know that, so nothing happened. i'm pretty sure he knows i like him, but he hasnt done anything which shows he doesnt like me back. most of my friends say i'm in love cause i've told them exactly how i felt about the guy i like. but i dont know cause i'm still young. and well lots of guys have asked me out and i want to move on and give other guys a chance, but i tryed it once last year and it was terrible cause i could stop thinking of the guy i like. i felt really bad for the other guy cause i didnt feel the same way. i dont get why i cant stop thinking about the guy i like. and i want to move on and forget about him, but i cant. theres a little part of me that still thinks i have a chance with him. i've seen his nice, sweet, and caring side. i just want to be with him so bad. but i cant force him too. and so i was thinking of talking to him and telling him exactly how i feel about him. my friends say i should so that i know that i tryed and that i'll never wonder "what if". but i do kinda want to but i'm just so nervous on ruining our friendship we have. but i hate woudering "what if". i also hate how i cant move on because i cant stop thinking about him. i just dont think its fair to date a guy who you dont feel the same way about. but i dont know how to move on cause its been 2 years and i dont feel myself getting over him anytime soon. please help.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Having a real relationship is much more fun than daydreaming. If he doesn't return your feelings, your friendship would end anyway because you will move on and try to date other guys. He would just be a burden, an obstacle to this. There is no need to play hard to get. If he really has feelings for you then he won't be scared. Try to use words like "want to get to know you better still," "I really like spending time with you, want to spend more time with you" and not throw in labels like relationship, committment, or next level. The more you see him the less the distance between you two.
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