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writes: I'd like to ask an opinion if I could, someone has posted something similar during the week but I'd still like to ask. I met a guy through mutual friend, he's single, we talked and laughed and got along. He was telling me jokes (bad ones, but i still tried to laugh), and he was showing me a party trick where he balances his coaster on its edge and balances his glass on it, then he tried to teach me how to do it. He also showed me some magic tricks (he's 26, I'm 24 by the way, we're not children although it sounds like it...)Idon't know if he's just being nice or if he likes me. Because I'm attracted to him, but I dont want to ask my friend for his number in case he doesnt like me then I'm embarrassed and my friend will know. should i just bite the bullet and tell my friend i like him or should i wait until we meet by chance at my friends place? im clueless what to do... Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (9 July 2006):
 Why not just go for it and ask your friend for his number? From my perspective, you're getting all agitated about someone finding out that you might like him, but... (shrugs) so what? You're not still in high school and the other kids aren't going to throw their half-eaten sandwiches at you when the news gets around.
You said it yourself: you're both adults. You're attracted to him, and it sounds like he wasn't exactly repelled by you either, so you should follow it up. Get his number, even if you have to admit to your friend that you thought he was nice. Text him, say hi, maybe say you enjoyed meeting up and hope to see him again sometime. OK, it's a bit less direct than ringing and asking him out, but it leaves the door open for further discussion and shows you're thinking of him. That's got to be a little flattering, regardless of whether he returns the interest. (If you never hear from him after a friendly text or two, then you can consider yourself "let down easy", right?)
You could wait and hope that you meet "accidentally on purpose" at your friend's place, but it's possible that by then he might have found someone else, so I think you should just be bold.
The worst -- the very worst -- that can happen is that he's flattered but not interested. So as long as you don't go overboard and declare your undying love on bended knee, you're not really risking so much by getting in touch. And if your friend knows about the attraction? Well, then she can take the credit for introducing your two, if things work out.
Go on!
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