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writes:well i like this guy lot and i dont feel right being with him iam afraid that pepole will judge me and he said he wants to marry me and have kids with me and hes going to ask me to marry him on chrismas and i dont know what to do he treats me right and i am in love with him but i am scared of what people might say iam 19 and i dont know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): darling,if you were really in love with this guy, you would know what to do.if he was really in love with you, he would want to make you happyand do what you want to do.he wouldn't pressure into somethingthat would make you uncomfortable either.trust me,if you're second guessing yourselfabout this marriage, you two need some more time.don't marry him because you don't want it to end badly.that isn't what holy matrimony is for.do you really want to spend another 60 years with this guy?can you really picture yourself happy with him for this long?
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Take more time to get to know him, and stop caring about what other people think!
These are the same people who if you were sad about something would probably spread it in a rumor, or not care about you at all, whereas he would be your shoulder to cry on.
Best wishes,
Amanda
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reader, Teacake +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Don't ever do what doesn't feel right. It never will. Tell him to cool off. You have your whole life ahead of you. You haven't even begun to have a life yet. You are too young to give up your personal future by devoting your life to a child and husband.
If he doesn't respect your feelings then he is not the man for you, basically, self serving. Maybe laugh at such an idea! Tell him he has to be kidding. That marriage and family are out of the question until you have more life experiences. That you love him, but just not ready to do forever until death do you part. Good luck
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