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writes:Hey everyone , Theres a guy i like and want to have a relationship with him . How can i let him know this without coming across desperate ? ive messaged him last night asking how he is , no reply as yet but i dont expect him to drop everything to message me straight away .I dont know what else to do apart from wait but im not waiting forever life is for living , do i just come out with " hi i enjoy your company and i do like you , if im not your cup of tea then thats fine " that sounds cringy Anyone have any ideas what to do ? thanks in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2016): How sure are you that he isn't already involved or in a relationship with another woman?Sorry, but it's been my experience that if a guy is interested, he will bite back immediately no matter what.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2016): OP here . Weve known each other for nearly 4 month hes never been a big texter in all the time ive known him . Hes had a tough time with being ill and in remission , his ex playing games in access to his child plus hes just started a new job i understand hes busy and has all this going on . We did chat about things at the beginning but in a more casual way of what we want out of life , he did ' sulk ' because i had to cancel seeing him a few week ago but we sorted that out .
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 June 2016):
 I agree, that no reply is not a great sign.
And NO do NOT tell him "I like you and if you don't like me it's all good..." no no no... That is what a 5th grader would do.
Instead when (if) he replies and the reply is longer than 3 words, ask him he he wants to go out for a pint XX-day. IF he answers in a noncommittal way to that.. he ISN'T interested and you NEED (for you own sake) to back off. IF he says sure, then go and relax, GET to know him a bit further.
You don't really say how well you know him, but you REALLY can't know you want a relationship with a guy BEFORE you get to know him a bit better.
And don't sit around and wait for a guy to "start" living your life! Set some PERSONAL goals that doesn't involve a man and go for them.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (23 June 2016):
"life is for living"
Funny...Cause you are not living life...You are freaking out :))))
"How can i let him know this without coming across desperate ? "
Too late :)) So, you said you like him and how do you show him...question is...What have you shown him so far?? Have you made eye contact, smile, say "hi"...anything?
If you like someone and have not done anything to relay that fact, then all you are doing is driving yourself crazy in your head, and no real work is being done.
Go talk to him...and let your body language do the rest.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 June 2016):
 OP you like him and want a relationship with him but you can't figure out why he does not message you back.
Do you know him or is this a guy you casually know and THINK you want to get to know him better?
How about "wanna grab a drink on Thursday night after work?"
or "hey how about meeting Saturday for lunch, my treat?" and see what that gets you?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 June 2016):
 No reply is not a great sign, do you often talk over text? A little bit more off the background between you both might help give more accurate advice, but if am honest yeah I think you should just go for it and ask him would he like to meet for lunch or dinner and see how it goes. You will know then one way or another.
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