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writes:I have a job and love it and i've made a few friends which has been good for me in terms of confidence as it's helped. I say hi now and then to a female I'm friends with, we don't speak much as time is very limited with her job and mine. Asked if she was okay but she didn't give me an answer or I don't know if she gave me an answer and I didn't hear and im a bit worried ive made myself look a fool. Sometimes when I'm working people bombard with me, with hellos and it's difficult to acknowledge people and especially the female I like and I start feeling guilty when ive not said hello to her. She does try and make the effort but it's difficult.What can I do about it? I was thinking of texting her about it but I'm not sure as these situations are hard to judge.If it's awkward me asking you how you are, after you've said hello. Just stick with saying hello if it's easier for you. As long as you are civil towards me then thats cool.Should I say that?My boss spoke to me in an aggressive threatening manor and wasn't nice to me today, as I didn't use the hose properly or got some aspects of it wrong?What can I do also about that? Help appreciated and sorry if this is quite long.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 June 2016):
 Just try and remain calm in these situations, if you forget your words then simply smile. Body language counts as a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2016): I won't do, it's just I can't remember things sometimes as things happen quick.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (22 June 2016):
Why would you have made yourself look like a fool? The thing is we say hello to people and work and ask how they are, but they might be in a rush so they say hello back or maybe the smile to acknowledge us. That is perfectly okay. It is great that work is helping with your confidence but don't over think the small things, as it is only added worry that you don't need. You don't need to feel guilty if you didn't get a chance to say hello back to someone. As long as you try your best to be friendly there really is no reason to worry about these things. I am sure people don't even notice, so please don't worry.
If you text her then it will make things very awkward, she will wonder why it is worrying you, if you want to text her to say hello or ask her how she is then do that, but don't ask her if you should just stick with hello, girls like confidence so just play it cool.
If your boss is aggressive towards you then you should talk to someone higher up than her in the company and report it.
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