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writes:I'll admit that I've had a crappy relationship. I've been hurt and now I think I'm ready to go out in the dating scene. But, I have feelings for this one guy. He's actually my friend. He was there for me when my ex and I broke up and I clung to him and he was there for me. My feelings for him grew and now...everyone that surrounds us is saying that they see this couple vibe. That they see something between him and I. And I'm willing to admit that we both flirt with each other and we've had moments that throw out a red flag that he shares the same feelings for me. Like, the times he holds my hand, we almost kissed, and the amount of time we spend together. And I don't know where I should stand...should I like him? Should I tell him? He has a gf that is unfaithful and he doesn't know it....what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontrue...thanks. i'll just let things unwind...
you're a great help.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (8 January 2007):
 like i said give yourself sometime apart from him and help this thing with his gf sorted so that history doesnt repeat itself and this time u will have lost a good friend in the process. i understand ur feelings might be genuine but under the circumstances plus your history i dont think you want to complicate things for yourself. you have nothing to loose if u tell him how u feel after he had sorted things with his bf, but before that u will definetley loose something if not all. think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know what you're saying and the exact reason why i dont want to tell him is because of my feelings for him and i dont want to say anything if its for the wrong reasons...and yeah i do ask myself whether what i'm feeling is just closure. i mean, i'm well over my ex...and at first i like him bc he was there but now that my ex is out of the picture...i like my friend more. i mean, i've liked him in the past but nothing too huge...
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reader, Jovial +, writes (8 January 2007):
Hi there
I think the first step is to be a friend to him, his gf is cheating and you are aware of that and yet you call yourself his friend, what type of friendship is that? Yeah you said you like him are you sure you do? Or is just the excitement of having his attention? People will always have something to say but what matters is you and your happiness, you have been hurt and now you want to involve yourself in a triangle do you think it will make the feeling go away? I don’t think so. He might be feeling the same way have u ever asked him why he befriended you, the guy has a girlfriend are you willing to share him? She might be unfaithful which looks like a great opportunity for you but like u said he doesn’t know and I don’t think with the way u feel it will be okay for you to tell him, rather tell one of his other best friend to tell him because if u do, when u tell him later how u feel he might think u wanted to break them apart, so allow yourself sometime apart from him to evaluate your true feelings, u might find that what u are feeling was just an infatuation cause by his compassion when u were feeling low and the time you spend together is just maximizing the excitement. Good luck
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