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anonymous
writes:i'm 15 and i've fallen in love with this girl that i meet on a online web cam chat site called chatroulette,the problem with that is she lives in a different country. when we were chatting on webcam we instantly connected and really liked each other. she asked me for my facebook account and then put a heart on my facebook page. we have now carried on talking on facebook and i said to her that i really want to see her in real life. She said that would be good but she's worried about wheather there will be a connection between us in real life like there was on web cam. What should i say to her? i really like her but obviously i haven't see her in real life either so i don't know for definate but that'swhy i want to go to her country and see her, what should i do? should i say to her that should just see how it goes when i see her, if she wants to see me?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 June 2012):
 Well I'm going to be honest here and say that long distance relationships are hard for adults who live close enough to drive to see each other. I know I just finished one.
There are a bunch of things about LDRS that make them harder than close relationships....
you need
honesty
trust
communication
regular visits
a plan to end the distance.
at your age you don't really have the ability to have regular visits with someone in a different country due to finances and time.
and it's not a good idea for you two to plan much of a future yet... so closing the gap any time soon is not an viable option either...
she is very right that there might not be a connection when you meet in person....
just tell her that you are friends online and when you can meet you will but don't tie yourselves down to each other or make promises that you can't keep...
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reader, Sammia +, writes (18 June 2012):
The problem with meeting online is that people can be whoever they want to be and who you want them to be. You don't know if you will have the same connection in real life! By all means meet up but have a parent with you don't ever meet alone. Yes you have seen her on the webcam but you never know what type of people are out there they do things to manipulate young people. You won't know how you feel about each other until you actually spend time together. You are a young boy you have loads of opportunity to meet a nice girl so don't be disheartened if she is not all she appears to be. Just remember safety first never meet up with anyone you meet online alone, always tell your parents where you are going, if not your parents an adult you trust. Good luck with this and I hope things work out.
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