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writes:I like this girl at work but I dont think she likes me,she only likes me as a friend. I get a funny feeling and I cant act myself when Im around her and I just cant seem to talk to her.Im not sure what to do.What should I do?
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reader, honeyluv  +, writes (29 April 2007):
Hey, this is perfectly normal, oh and by the way thanks for the ad. Anyway yes it is normal to feel the way u feel, I am sure u have a great personality, and ure easy to talk to! I think u should ask her out and see what happens but what ever u do just be U no one esle and then every thing will fall in place...Girls dont like it when guys pretent to be something that there not! So good luck and hope all goes well remember just be u!!
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reader, maverick +, writes (29 April 2007):
 From a psychological point of view this is normal, she has gotten your interest (you're attracted to her mate) BUT you are not sure what to do. That's why you are nervous. Chances are you are sub-conciously worried about doing something wrong in front of her to put her off you. Relax.
First you need to come to grips with your feelings of anxiety around her. Believe it or not it is actually very diffcult to make a prat of yourself infront of a girl you like. When you're in front of her or you see her you will need to relax. Stop thing negative thoughts about you and think positive thoughts about her. There's a difference between "Aww she's going to notice my gawky lips" and "I wonder if I smile at her will she smile back?".
A good practical way to get over nervousness is to make eye contact and do smile at her - its hard but it shows confidence and friendlines. Just don't stare to often - that's scary. This will boost your confidence and make speaking wth her a bit easier. Practive by making eye contact and smiling at pretty much every girl you see.
Avoid thinking about you and concentrate on making her feel good. (That doesn't mean unwarranted compliments). Make conversations short and sweet to start with. By the way if you're a guy and you are nervous a girl WILL pick up on it and that will make her feel nervous too!
Good luck. M
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2007): You have to make up your mind to go one way or another. You're acting strange probably because you like her and you're nervous. If you ask her out it will probably solve your problem. If she says yes, you'll probably be able to act more the way you want to. If she says no, then it doesn't matter how you act, which takes off the pressure to say and do the right thing, so you will feel better about the way you act. If you don't ask her out, but you want to be friends, then you'd have to get rid of those feelings somehow (like getting another girlfriend or finding someone else to crush on) and then you will be able to act "normally" around her.
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reader, Jaydalay +, writes (29 April 2007):
Take the bull by the horns, you dont know for sure she doesnt like you, so why not ask her out then you'll know for sure. Either way she will be flattered. You will then know where you stand with her. If she says no, then move on, but continue to be friends as you can never have too many of them. If she says yes, then the world is your oyster. Just makes sure she sees the real you!
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