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writes:i really like thid girl, we have been to college together for 2 years now and over those years we got close! but i dont no how she feels about me! as its near valintines i was thinking about telling her how i feel but i dont no if i should because she is having her ex-boyfriends child. what should i do?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 It depends, do you want to get caught up in potential crazy baby daddy drama with her ex? Can you handle a girl who has excess baggage?
First, I would find out how much her ex is going to be involved in this baby's life. If he stepping up to the plate of parenthood then it's best that you stay out of this girl's love life. Plus when this chick has her child, she's not going to exactly have enough time for dating when she has a screaming newborn to tend to.
Maybe when her baby gets a little bit older and the father doesn't really have anything to with them besides child support then I would make a move. Regardless if it's Valentine's Day, now is just not the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): This is a tough situation. I was 14 weeks pregnant with my ex's child wen I met my boyfriend and he decided to stick around but he had alot to think about first. It depends how much you like this girl and what your feelings are towards children, as it is a kind of two in one package! Are you ready to be a big part of this childs life? You wont be the father as such (unless the birth father isn't sticking around and thats what she wants) but you will still be a huge part of its life. Can you handle her still having constant contact with her ex about the child (again only if he is sticking around?). It is one of the hardest relationships to be in but also one of the most rewarding. My son loves my partner to bits but he also knows his father and my partner can never substitute him, can you handle knowing that the child isn't your birth son or daughter? It depends on your situation but I really hope this has helped. Good luck (:
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reader, Saleemrodman  +, writes (1 February 2011):
I am almost in the same situation, but mine is a long distance, where I am in the U.S and she's in the U.K. I'm sorry I can't answer your question, but best of luck to you man. I know what you must be going through.
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