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writes:Okay, so first off I know it's impossible for me to be a lesbian because of my strong romantic, emotional and sexual attraction to men. I don't have an emotional or romantic attraction to any woman and never have. I remember in 9th grade, two of my friends thought I was weird for never 'kissing' a girl as a child but why would I if I wasn't attracted to them? I am, however very turned on by lesbian porn and the upper part of a woman's body. I have no interest in any of my friends like that, but sometimes I fear so much about getting turned on by them naked that when they change in front of me, I like feel like i'm forcing myself not to look but I don't know?! When I was 11, my friend and I used to feel each other's boobs but I realized that was just hormones, getting my period for the first time a few weeks later...And ever since then no sexual contact with girls have been made. Does anyone have any idea what this could mean?! Any advice would be great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2015): I'm a women and noticed when I watch porn I'm more interested in the reactions the women make vs men . I am not gay I think it's just a fantasy thing .
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reader, Karlos83  +, writes (5 May 2015):
 It doesn't necessarily mean you're bisexual. From what I can gather it's really quite common for females to get bi-curious about other females. Some even act on their curiosity. In fact my girlfriend had an actual girl on girl experience when she was younger, yet she's never had one since or had the desire to. On the other hand, it could be the start of a realisation of being bisexual (or even gay), as the case is for some females. If a transition is going to take place, I imagine it will happen gradually anyway, and it can only be fully complete when you are ready. Experiment however you feel comfortable and see where it leads, I guess that's what everyone else does who experiences what you're experiencing now.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 May 2015):
 You're not bisexual. Or you might be, who knows, but as of right now you aren't.
Being bisexual doesn't mean you need to be attracted to all boobs you see. I'm bisexual, I have no problem watching my friends naked without getting turned on. It's not like you are turned on by all and any guy as soon as he takes his shirt off, right? Even though you like boys?
There's a very big gap between what turns you on in fantasy, and what works in real life. Just because you like something in porn, or to imagine something, does not at all mean you would like it in real life.
That being said, sexuality is fluid. You might be straight now, then you might turn bisexual in 10 years, and then back to straight. It happens. We grow, we change, and what we want can change as well. But no reason to worry that you will suddenly get aroused by any of your friends should you see them naked. If you're not interested in them when they have their clothes on, you wont be that interested in them naked either.
I mean, it's not like you can only fall in love once you see a person naked ;) Unless you like them to begin with, seeing them naked will not make a difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2015): Its not really a problem is it. All guys like the idea of girl on girl action so this clearly is a spectator sport.Porn is designed to turn you on, knitting is not. Porn is not the same as sex it is flamboyant exhibitionism.... and watching is voyeurism .... it is nowhere near the same as grabbing a work colleague and stuffing your tongue down her throat...
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (5 May 2015):
It simply means...You still have a lot of hormones. :) What turns you on does not define your sexually. We are all curious about what feels good sexually. If you didn't have those desires at all...then I would say you have an issue.
Sexual desire gets us ready for falling love, and picking out a partner that cause those desires to come rushing out. It helps us to bond to that person, because they make us feel...RRRRRR!!! :)
You being turned on by naked women is normal...why? We are normally turned on by our first sexual contact or first sexual pleasure for the rest of our lives...You were exposed to naked girls at a young age, and it's what you know.
I am to this very day turned by women in white underwear, because my first sexual turn on was from a clothing catalogue in the underwear section when I was 11 years old. I was also turned on by older women, because the women in the catalogue where older.
So you are completely normal...for a human. :) I would stay away from the aliens though...not sure what they are like. :)
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reader, Garbo +, writes (5 May 2015):
 Fear not because lesbian porn is among top 3 fantasies all women have, statistics show. It does not work like that for guys tho. So in your case, you are normal and fall within that general statistic. If you are uncomfortable with the after effect of such porn then don't watch it. Find other type to watch or better yet, do not watch at all because porn is, studies show, particularly potent on neural pathways of young developing teenagers such that they change their normal development possibly exposing you to effects relating to addiction and sex. Studies are still new and actual effects are not fully known but a mutation in neural pathways are definitively documented.
So anyway, no you are not lesbian if you watch such porn.
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