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*rettycute
writes:Okay Ladies and gentlemen i am in a bit of a predicament...I am 22 turning 23 female trying to settle in to a serious long-term relationship...I have been seeing this guys who is about my age and truly amazing and would love to spend the rest of my life with him. He has everything a lady could ask for. We started off as friends and grew to love each other. Its been about a year since i have known him. Obviously if it is to good it ain't real....so the problem is that he is from a different cast than me which my parents would not accept and his parents would not be too happy about me being from a different cast as well. Then comes thinking about the future and religion and what the kids will follow.So he leaves the country to go back to his home country and has been away for close to 5 months and should be back in the next few days...we have been in touch on the phone and i am eagerly awaiting his arrival.while he is away, another guy comes in to the picture. I had noticed him before and he noticed me as well but we just never spoke...finally he comes and talks to me because he sees me as some one worth pursuing. I have known him for about 4 weeks now and he is super amazing and the best part is he is from the same cast as me...therefore a future would be easier to build with him.however...when i am with the new guy i often feel guilty and start thinking about the other guy....I care a lot for the new guy as well and my feelings are growing on him. But this could be because i haven not seen the other guy in while right?Also, they both know about each other from me..but they do not know each other. So they are aware of this situation that i am in...i believe in honesty...so i need help in which way to go...pls help me Reply to this Question
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reader, Rachel86  +, writes (8 December 2008):
Hi prettycute!
Am new so bare with me..
Are you sure that your not just settling for guy B? You talk about guy A much more fondly, and I am a great believer in listening to who the soul longs for. You use the phrase "my feelings are growing on him" about B, suggesting your looking to like him cause it would - as you say - be easier.
Follow your HEART hunny, I know different cultures have different beliefs on casts and who's 'acceptable' to date. But in the words of Shakespere, To thine own self be true
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