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writes:I like a guy but my best friend loves him too, he liked my best friend before but now he says he love me again. But he don't know that I love him because I do not want my best friend learn that and the guy once told me on facebook ' I'm gonna try to talk to you less because i try to forget you ' but the problem is that I not want him forget me. I do not know what to do!
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (26 June 2011):
It depends on how much you value your friendship. In my opinion, a guy isn't worth losing a best friend. Its the classic scenario where two people, friend, like the same guy. When they try to compete with each, it never ends well. Think of your friend's feelings for this guy. She'll be hurt if you go after the guy she has a crush on. I think you two should agree not to flirt with this boy or make your move. It's not worth putting a good friendship on the line for. I still see girls in high school getting into huge fights because of a similar reason. think about what it would be like if you lose a good friend over something so silly. If you decide you care very much about your friend, tell this boy that you like him but value your friendship more. Hope this helps!
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reader, MissTellAll  +, writes (26 June 2011):
 From personal experience I've learned that picking a guy over a friend never turns out how you want it to. I've been on both sides of this. If you pick him and date him your friend will either silently and resent you or cause trouble with you. If you step aside and let them be together you will wonder how things would have turned out otherwise, become jealous of them, and there's always the possibility of him deceiving one or both of you by cheating, causing an even greater rift between the two of you.
Overall, the fact that your best friend and you have similar tastes in guys isn't surprising, being friendships usually form over common interests, but you should just let him go. There are other guys out there who won't cause trouble between you and your friend.
Good luck.
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