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30-35,
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writes:There's a hot guy on my course (economics) who is in some of my tutorial groups etc and he flirts with me quite a bit, looking me up and down, winking at me asking me if his belt buckle looks big etc. He has the SS haircut with lots of hair gel, wears lots of perfume, drives a black BMW round campus with Bollywood music playing, wears stringer vests and has big muscles, etc. On his FB it says he is single, had a serious GF a but he also seems like a big party boy, likes to go out a lot, flirt with the ladies and take pics with his arms round em etc.Hes friendly and hot but he talks like a TOTAL LAD if u know what I mean, eg in our tutorials before the professor comes in he often calls his mates quickly and then is shouting down the phone "ARE YOU GOING OUT TONIGHT" etc.Idk if I like him or not I mean hes kind of hot and very easy 2 get 2 know but on the other hand I want a nice sensitive bf who isn't a player as I don't have time for that. I usually date nerdy good boys with glasses who spend their time in the library.Is it normal to be turned off by "lads" or boys who seem like "Bad boys"? does he sound like a player?
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reader, mjenkins6060  +, writes (25 May 2018):
The sad truth is that men like this are commitment phobes and can’t take dating seriously. He sounds a tad immature and will probably play games and then move on to the next woman when he is done with you. And by done I mean sleep with you and leave. I’ve had it happen to me before but If you like sex with a player than by all means, go out with him. Or maybe you could give him a taste of his own medicine and dump him first. Either way, I don’t see this relationship lasting for very long. My advice is to tell him flat out that you’re looking for a serious relationship and he will be gone in a flash.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 May 2018):
 Yes, he sounds like a player or player wanna-be who is into the whole party scene, which is not uncommon for guys his age.
Flirting with you might just be to BOOST his own ego and not because he is interested.
Is it normal to be turned off by that "type"? For some it is. I, personally, have never found that "type" attractive. I used to spend a lot of time in the gym with these kinds of "self-absorbed steroids heads" and I don't really think they worth the hassle. BUT each to their own.
Some guys like the orange tinted, full make up and tiny dresses, loud, etc (Jersey shore, Geordie Shore) kind of girl. Others don't.
If you are looking for a decent man as a partner, I think I'd leave this "type" on the shelf and look for someone you actually have something in common with and are attracted too.
Could you really see yourself with someone who is busy getting attention from as many girls as possible?
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