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writes:HiSo to cut a long story short. I really like a girl, I believed she liked me for a while but now I think she doesn't. It's mixed signals which usually means they're not into you.I can't really move on until I know for sure as I always want to find hope. So i'm going to just tell her i like her. I have no expectation she will like me back.What is the best way to tell her? i don't want to make her feel uncomfortable or guilty for not liking me back, i just need to say it to move on.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 April 2019):
 How well do you know her? How much time have you spent together?
I’m with Honeypie that you should hang out a bit, then ask her on a date. Just simple: “Would you like to go out for dinner with me sometime?” This may be too subtle if you go out for dinner as friends, so you may need to add something about liking her.
For what it’s worth, being rejected can make you a little bitter for a while, so don’t declare your feelings just for the sake of it. Only do it if she shows a steady interest. If she doesn’t, it’s life that you have to chalk it up as a no and move on. That’s also how she’d learn not to give mixed messages, if she did actually like you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 April 2019):
 How well do you know her?
I think "professing" your feelings to someone you don't know all that well is NOT a good idea.
Instead WHY not just up the interactions? Talk more with her, maybe ask her out for movie/lunch/coffee?
If she declines or not., then you will probably figure out if she interested or not and you won't stand with EGG on your face declaring your feelings.
SAVE the declarations of love (or like) for someone who you KNOW well, and where it would ACTUALLY matter you telling them. Not just for their sake but for your own.
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