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*aandaaOlveraa
writes:About 5 months ago i met my uncle's wife's brother at my little cousin's birthday party. They all live in mexico so i rarely see them.This boy and I didn't talk, we just looked at each other and smiled, through out the whole party.After that we didn't talk..i felt weird because i just wanted to see him again, and i was mad at myself for not talking to him.Time passed, and thanksgiving came and i decided to stay at my uncle's house for the thanksgiving vacatioon. I ended up talking to my aunt's brother.Two weeks passed, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. i said yes, of course.I told my mom i liked him, but she immedietly said no. she didn't want me to talk to him.i asked her why, and she said because he lived in mexico. She didn't want me to be with someone when we will have no future. i got furious and we have been fighting about it for like a week or two.i lied to my mother and told her i stopped talking to him.My mother believed me.But during the christmas vacation the whole family was there, in mexico, and my mom ended up finding out we are going out. she made me go home, and she told me i can't go to mexico anymore.i'm so trapped, i dont want to lose him. My whole family are upset, because they don't want me to be with him.i've even thought of getting pregnant, just to be with himI don't know what to do, I love him so much..but my family is in the way.i'm frustrated.can someone help please!!!
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reader, archykins  +, writes (2 January 2011):
i think your right to fight for it now than have the ever hovering question of "what if" that can haunt people for years. but always remember to trust your gut over your heart, the heart (although a strong muscle) is impulsive.
if you do that you have a better chance. :)
goodluck.
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reader, MaandaaOlveraa +, writes (27 December 2010):
MaandaaOlveraa is verified as being by the original poster of the question - thaanks all of you, i really appreciate the help. But my mind is set, and im going to fight for this. I know it wont be easy, and i know many people will disagree, but im going to follow my heart. Maybe im too young, but im sure of what im feeling. Its not just a little boyfriend thats going to leave..i feel like if i fight for this, it will be worth it. Anyways thanks for the advice, it was a great help. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): let him go, if he lives in mexico then you'll hardly see him anyway, if he really loved you he would have fought for you, and why the hell do you give a damn what your mum is thinking about when you 'love him so much' in my eyes, its lust x
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 How old is this guy you're seeing? If he's a lot older than you then i can understand why your family are so against you being with him. If he is around your age then i can understand where you're coming from, but becoming pregnant just to be with him isn't the answer sweetie...
Just bide your time on this one, your mum will eventually calm down, then you can talk properly WITHOUT arguing.
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reader, steph007  +, writes (27 December 2010):
The point is that your feelings are quite early. You may be in love with somebody and even fight for that love --- when you are about 18. If you do not express your feelings, only talk and a bit walk around with thins uncle, then now you would still have the opportunity for that. You talked too early about it. It is nice that you wants to struggle against the limits, but I think your family is right, they know something about this boy, what you do not know, and why it is better to stop this teen-love -- now. What will happen after few years? Only God knows that.
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reader, stank107 +, writes (27 December 2010):
If you really feel that , tha is best for you then go right ahead but my bf once told me that he wants to have kids but it was just his feelings and now after 5 months he doesnt know why he told me im 14, with a lot of intellegence , no your mom is not right for doing that because she thinks she is doing the best thing for you but she's not
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