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writes:So, i'm in high school and I have a best friend and he's a guy. We text everyday and flirt. I've liked him for a little more than a year and he says he's liked me too off and on since last summer. Well since this past summer i've really fallen for him and we've gotten pretty "serious". BUT he has a girlfriend and has had one for a little more than a year... At times they have problems and he vents to me about her calling her a bitch , etc. You know. Well during the past summer we started exchanging pictures. We've talked about having sex, and doing pretty much everything. I want to and he knows that but i'm scared. and I don't know if I should move on because I've liked him sooo much and we've gotten sooo close that I don't want to just give up because we've come so far. Well almost 6 months later, he still asks for pictures. I haven't sent one lately . but I really don't know what to do. Do I move on? and just stay friends or what?! HELP D;
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reader, puzzles +, writes (27 December 2010):
puzzles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys that really helped me think about it some more. They were not nude pictures . Just not fully clothed? like swimsuits , bra , etc.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 What pictures are we talking about here? Nudes? Do not ever sent nude pictures of yourself to anyone! Not even this boy that you love so much. If he loved you back the same he wouldn't be having another girlfriend, so do not let yourself get taken advantage of just because you have feelings for him. No more pictures.
As for him... I would say that unless he is single you should back off. Because if he can flirt and talk about sex, and basically all of this while in a relationship with someone else he will surely act the same way if you and him get together. He will have someone else to talk to, and he is likely to cheat and hurt you.
No more pictures or talking about the two of you having sex as long as he is in a relationship with someone else. Those things are for couples. As long as you keep this up he will get two women at the same time, and he will only learn not to respect women at all, or respect you. Draw the line somewhere. Say friends and close friends too. But no more pictures, talk about sex, or intimate things that border to cheating. I'd even say while he's in a relationship with someone it's unacceptable to ask for pictures of other girl, and it's highly unacceptable to talk about having sex with them! It's basically cheating and I'd dump a man if he did that to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): our situations are similar but not exactly the same either. speaking from recent experience aka a few days ago. you should always tell someone how you feel before its too late. my best friend i've been in love with for 5 years might ask his gf to marry him and he has NO CLUE how i feel since i've always been too scared to tell him. now i feel as tho i've lost my chance forever.
although the way you describe him... it kinda seems he is a little more interested in the "benefits" not an actual relationship. boys that age tend to be that way.
but if you tell him, wait until he is single again. wouldn't want to be considered a "home wrecker".
let things play out. it seems they won't last forever with his gf... especially if he is calling her a bitch and what not. then when he is free, take a chance. if it's meant to be then it will be. but until then stop sending him pictures if he is with someone else. how would you feel if he was dating you and talking about this kind of stuff with another girl?
i see your age is between 13-15... not that it really matters much. i hate when adults tell me teenagers don't know what love is. but even so you have A LONG TIME to grow and mature and so do your relationships. i always wanna punch ppl when they tell me "there are plenty of other fish in the see"... because you think... "but...but... i want THAT fish". i used to hate it. but it doesn't make it any less true.
best of luck to you.
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