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writes:what has age difference got to do with marrage?i am a man at 24, but all through my life i have been making friends with people who are older than i am, and now i want to get married, and the girl i have fallen in love with is five years older than i am. She had asked me of my age and i lied to her that i am at thesame age with her. i love her so much i wont like to let her go and at the same time am afraid that if i let her know my age she might quit. i am guilty of not leting her know my age.what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): please tell her the truth i am also 3 years older than my partner please tell her the what is going to br happened if you tell the truth? she will be angry with you for a few days and then its going to be all right
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reader, stina  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Hello there,
You've asked "what has age difference got to do with marrage?" Nothing. But honesty and communication has everything to do with it.
Tell your partner your real age. And be prepared for her to be possibly angry and upset, not because of the age issue, but because you could lie about something so trivial. It may make her a little wary to trust you for a while... But then again, she may not think it's a big deal.
Just tell her. Have you thought about how you're going to do this? I suggest saying something when she's in a good mood - maybe after you two have had dinner together. And make sure it's in a private place, like your home.
Take care.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Tell her the truth silly.
Its not like you are 19 is it?.
5 years is nothing, I am 4 years older than my partner, and we are really happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): Simple - tell her the truth! She might be pleased that she's got a 'toyboy' in which case there's no problem, or she might not be so pleased that you decived her in which case you'll have to put up with the outcome.
She's probably guessed that you're younger than her anyway.
You've got 2 chances here - either good or bad, and you'll have to live with it if it's bad. (or rejoice if it's good!).
Phil
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