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*inkbees09
writes:So there's this guy that I use to like last year. He was mean to me in the beginning of the year, like he'd throw salt in my hair and call me ugly and stuff. Then he started being nicer to me and stuff like that. Then this year he was being OK i guess but ever since about last Friday he has changed for the worst again. There's this other girl, I'll call her Betty. She and the guy, I'll call him Paul are both pretty good friends. Now Betty is a popular girl with the guys, I wouldn't say she's a slut or anything but yeah she has alot of guy friends. I use to be sorta kinda friends with her but last year I noticed that she'd give me bad looks and stuff like that. Anyways, Paul and Betty and these 2 other guys did a project and our class was in the library. I went to go put a few books back and had to pass Paul and Betty's group. So when I was walking back, Paul asked me how I was doing and I said I was good. Then one of the guys said something and Peaul was like "Wait a minute she [as in me] acted black?" or something like that. You see I'm black but I guess I act more white then anything but I don't care and none of my friends care.Anyways they started talking about me when I was still standing there. Then Betty said "She's still standing there you guys" and Paul looked at me and continued talking. I walked back to my group and could here Paul and Betty's group laughing and I knew it was about me. Then today we were in the library and Paul threw a piece of paper at me and I swear I was about to punch him in his face, then near the end of the class he gave me this book on STD's and I dropped it on the ground since I was soooo close to bashing it in his head. Then he was like "[my name] you dropped your book." then i was like "Paul you need to stop" and he was like ooooh and stuff. Then I called him a faggot and I swear I was about to kill him I was so angry and pissed. I was sitting with my group and one of my friends called to me and I couldn't turn around because tears were in my eyes. I swaer I was soo angry and just needed to cool off, a couple of minutes later I told me friends what happened and they told me to ignore him. I'm asking you, what should I do??And after he does stuff like this he'll act like nothing happened and it really makes me mad. And about Betty, my other friend passed her a note to give to me and she sorta just threw it so I barely got it. I swear these 2 are really getting on my nerves.
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reader, Pinkbees09 +, writes (5 October 2007):
Pinkbees09 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I think the only reason they said I act 'white' is because I don't listen to rap and most of my friends are white. I'm not saying I don't act black or white, I just know I don't really like rap but that doesn't mean I act white. I'll just ignore them.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (4 October 2007):
 OK, first of all lets clear up the "acting black". There is no such thing as acting black, or acting white. As far as the Paul is concerned boys are so immature in highschool. If they like you they pick on you, if they do notlike you they pick on you. So the best way to deal with that is to ignore him and keep your distance from him and Betty. Punching him inthe face would probably make you feel better, but it will probably get you suspended. So just be the mature one and ignore him and her. Pretend they do not even exist and concentrate on your studies and your friends who know how to treat you with respect.
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reader, Aredas  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Hey, "female", I understand that it can be very hurtful when people make fun of you for your racial background, and I see why you wanted to bash his head in with the book, but my advice is just to ignore them for now, and if they don't get bored of insulting you after a while then I would confront them and tell them how you feel, no matter how ludicrous this idea seems, it can change things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): My question if you are black, but act white, and other white people (kids) know and see you act white, you don't care about acting white as you said... So what is the question..... Oh what should you do.... nothing... You act white people know it... And.. You chose to act white, they didn't make you so get over it. Now if them laughing at you bothered you them stand up for yourself, but you can't get mad at something you acknowledged yourself. By the way I am a proud black girl, who talks proper, carries herself accordingly, has class and is professional, I don't consider that acting white.
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