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writes:I lied to my boyfriend about my age. When we first met I was 18 (and he was 27) but I told him that I was 19. It wasn't a huge deal because it was only 1 year but now I'm about to turn 20 and he thinks I'm going to be 21. Going out to bars and clubs have never been a problem because I have a good fake ID (which he knows about) but now I feel like he's going to try and throw a huge 21st birthday bash when I'm not going to be 21!!! I know I have to tell him but I don't know HOW to tell him. We've been together for a little over a year and the thought of lying to him this whole time has been lingering over my head (more now than ever since my birthday's approaching) I didn't lie to hurt him or deceive him, I did it because I didn't think he'd give me a shot if I was 18. I'm so scared that he's going to want to break up with me. What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): You see, this is why the drinking age should be lowered in the states to 18.Thats what it is in most civilised societies.If you are old enough to vote and die for your country, you are old enough to have a drink with your comrades whilst doing that.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): I think you and everyone else on this page is making out an age issue as being more important than it is....but I would quickly tell your boyfriend that you forgot how old you are since you have been going to bars on a fake id and you were just reminded that this year you turn 20.
If he gives you any static say you are sorry, but it doesn't change anything about how you feel about him, does being a year younger change how he feels about you?
If you don't make it a big deal or like you betrayed him, then I don't think he will make a big deal out of it either. And good luck drinking on that fake id, if you got out get behind the wheel and kill someone, you are in worse trouble than had you been 21 and legal. Think about it.
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (1 February 2009):
 I totally agree with Aunty Ranch. You started off the relationship with a lie, what else have you lied about? When people tell a lie, 20 more must be told in order to cover up that one lie. Peoples lives get turned upside down because of someone lies.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (1 February 2009):
why did you lie in the first place?
when he finds out he will be thinking what else has she been lying about. there's no trust there, one lie always leads to another. sorry to say this but you should of just been straight with him from the start. you can't have a relationship based on lies. you need to tell him and face whatever happens.
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