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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok, the other day I did the dumbest thing ever. My girlfriend and I both 18 want to have sex with eachother and we are both virgins. But she asked me if I have been with any other girls and I wanted to seem like a player so I told her ive actually been with 4 girls. I thought she would be ok with it, but she was like thats disgusting and not fair and she is hurt. She is telling me that she should be able to have sex with 4 guys now, and I don't deserve to be her first. I can't imagine the thought of another guy with her and I told her so, and I told her the truth, but she does not believe me now and says I will say anything to get her in bed.I am going crazy now, and she says when she is ready for me she will let me know, but that would mean she ended up having sex with other guys. I have no clue how to handle this.
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reader, tux +, writes (19 March 2009):
 It's been a long day since I saw girls impressed by the number of girls that a boy sleeps with.. The only ones that would be impressed would be those who have slept with a lot themselves, mainly because after having that many, they desire someone with experience rather than a virgin because they want better because they have had a lot of flavours to remember from.
I think you will have problems digging yourself out of this hole, because simply put, it'll only sound like you are making up that you are a virgin to get her in bed.. since you've already slept with 4 girls.. and now you are just trying for 5.
My suggestion is if you really want to be with her, you are going to have to wait whether she sleeps with some guys or not..
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (19 March 2009):
 Let her know that you lied because you were embarrassed by your lack of experience and then stop pressuring her for sex. If you back off a bit, she will know you are sincere and not just trying to get in her pants. If she sleeps with someone else anyway, she wasn't worth your time in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): Tell her you're willing to take a lie dectector test to prove that you actually didn't sleep with 4 girls and that you just didn't want her to think you were a loser.
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male
reader, DoubleM +, writes (19 March 2009):
 You have possibly learned something valuable. Women (and girls) usually do not much like hearing about your previous conquests, whether real or fabricated. The situation is difficult if not impossible to reverse, but you might sheepishly admit you lied in an immature attempt to impress her. One result or the other, remember the lesson.
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