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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me after we had a huge fight a few months ago. He told me right away and I forgave him. A week ago he asked me to marry him and I said yes, but now Im afraid that since I forgave him so easily he will do it again. Now I dont know what to do.We are both 25.
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reader, tux +, writes (19 March 2009):
 It seems to me that the best solution is to wait to get married. As hard as it sounds, you are not ready. This doubt in the back of your head is going to eat you alive. You are going to start wondering and thinking that he is out cheating on you while you are married. This will only end in sadness. It's going to be you yelling at him for something he may or may have not done, and he is going to be yelling back at you saying he didn't do anything..
You need to wait and get your trust back in place.. Marriage needs have trust as one of the foundations. If you lack trust, you are bound to have failure in any relationship. You need to hold off on the wedding plans until you can trust him fully again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): If you're afraid he'll do it again. Talk to him about it. Tell him even though you understand he did it once you will not accept him doing it to you again. Let it be clear that you want his full commitment and honesty before you get married.
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