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writes:i lied to a man i met online. i lied about almost everything except my views on certain subjects, my feelings for him, some things about my past,my clumsiness and "dorkiness", things like that. i didn't want to lie to him, but something inside me kept doing it, and then i had such deep feelings for him i didn't want our relationship to end. we've never met face to face. now he wants nothing to do with me. is there anyway i can get him to even just be my friend so he can get to knoe me, as me?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (14 December 2007):
 Almost always nothing good comes from anything based on a lie. Once you have been untruthful it is often hard to convience anyone that you can otherwise. However with internet relationships you must be careful. Who's to say this person has been completely honest with you?
First of all I would advise you not to be so hard upon yourself. Learn to like the person you are for that is what you will be to someone else. It is what they will see if they meet you.
Forgive yourself for your mistake and if this person can't find it in their heart to forgive you then they are hardly worth your effort. Even friends make mistakes. All you can do is apologize and move forward one day at the time.
Remember that unless you have to lie to protect your safety (like giving your real name or address, etc.) Then just be evasive instead. Be sure to let the person know you are doing this for your own safety. They should understand if they are sincere. If not then you don't need him anyway. Be cautious.
May God watch over you and send you someone special to open your eyes and love you as you are.
God bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): If it was just a friendship on the internet then i would be inclined to just move on. Put him out of your head and meet some more people. Just as you found him, you will find someone else. Dont worry about the little white lies, it is the massive ones that you should be worrying about. I bet you are not dorky! Stop putting yourself down and just be yourself, you will be fine. If he doesnt want to know then you have had a lucky escape. Meet new ones.
take care
xx
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