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writes:I'm currently in my longest relationship (of all of 4 1/2 months) and its long distance. I guess you could say I'm somewhat obsessed with my boyfriend. I think about him constantly and when he does things like not call for a day or two or dosn't call me back when he says he would... I get worse. I know he has a life outside of me and I can't expect him to be there every second of the day, not when we live so far away. And usually its Friday and Saturday I don't hear from him then he calls again on Sunday. So its not like its been the same routine since we've been together (and yes, I do call him. But lately I've had to rely on him calling me because his cell phone is dead and he's in the process of moving from his roomates to back in with his parents). And lately one of the first thing he tells me is he missed talking to me, even though it had only been all of 24 hours since we last talked and that he thinks about me all the time.So whats wrong with me? Why do I let it get to me most of the time? I always start thinking bad things like "What if he's found someone else?" or "Maybe he dosn't love me that much". I know in the very back of my head that I'm being silly and he wouldn't do that to me... and that he realy does love me as much as he says.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you two for the replies. He does know about things, but not completely. What usuaully happens is I get all worried, then calm myself down and by the time I can talk to him again, I feel fine and forget/know its not worth mentioning. Not completely anyways. He does always know when I've had a bad time and that some of it comes from missing him so much.
Missing eachother and wanting to see eachother is something we both bring up on a regular basis. Recently he mentioned that he got his car fixed and now has the money to come see me. I'm free this weekend, so he's going to try and see about getting off to come see me.
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (19 March 2007):
 I will admit long distance relationships can be hard, however, as long as you make the most of your talks by cell or emails you can have a wonderful relationship. As he has things to occupy his day, so should you. One suggestion is to try to find time to see each other, but I would see if he brings it up first. If he misses you and says to you that he does, I would find away to see when the two of you will see each other again. It does get hard when you don't physically see each other though. I believe IF it was meant to be, it will be!
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reader, nologo  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 This situation is quite common for long distance relationships.
You are lucky that your boy doesn't know about all these concerns in your head.
"What if" questions mean there is a void that is supposed to be filled by actual communication.
It's your longest relationship (as of today), so do please enjoy it, have fun.
Noone here can say for sure whether something is going on beyond your knowledge.
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