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writes:Before the guy I Iike left for a training job he's doing in Europe, I kinda let him know my feelings to him. Not directly, but more like for him to catch the idea.I told him that not many people can care for him as me a silly girl does. And he replied that he'll be very busy but if he has a chance he'll write and he'll be back soon enough and will definitely be in touch.Was he letting me down cuz I wanted to write to him while away, but he's email acct. was gonna change. Please help me,even as a friend I do want to keep in touch with him. He'll be back in a month and a half!I don't know if I blew it, what can I do in order for me not to loose him as friend!Please help, should I write to him , I know his Bday is tomorrow, and I still have his normal email account he uses in his job, where I usually email him, so is it Ok for me to write and leave him a message for his return.I have to clear up that I wrote him an email while he was gone, although I didn't know he was already gone. He just told me when he'll be back not when he was leaving. So would it be too much email already or is it OK to write again , or should I wait for his email, what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): I just went through something pretty similar to that. I had a crush on this girl and then she decided to leave work pretty quickly. So, I just flat out told her via email, pretty directly, that I liked her right before she left. I got pretty much the same email you got. The way that I am rationalizing it (I got a little more feedback than you) is that her initial reaction was embarrassment. She didn’t know I liked her and she really freaked out when I told her. I didn’t hear anything for a while. The way I felt is that I just wanted a simple answer whether the feelings were mutual. A simple “no” would have been fine. But I got nothing and it was really frustrating. I felt like an emotional coke bottle was fizzing out of me and pouring all over the floor. Eventually all of the emotions processed themselves and I was getting over it and then she answered me back and told me that she was really surprised but that we should keep writing each other. I am looking at the fact that she is gone as an opportunity now. I had such a big crush that I couldn’t talk to her. Now, I’ve gotten to tell her how I feel and the air is clear. We can spend the time until we see each other again emailing and getting to know each other a little bit more. I am hoping this will give us the opportunity to find out if we like each other. Of course, I had the advantage that she was really nice about it and I think once she had the time to think about it, she thought she might like me too. Don’t forget that people you have a crush could have been totally oblivious and they need a little time to figure that out. And then you have to figure out how much control you have over the situation. Ummm.... none? So, you told him. What else can you do? Worry about it? I think sometimes you have to play your cards and hope you win. It’s the people who don’t ever play their cards are the ones to worry about. All you can do is be honest.
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reader, Dimeji  +, writes (1 April 2008):
Try and send a funny email to him that will surely make him laugh. tell him you're waiting for a reply from him to confirm he is truly in paradise where he is right now.
he'll surely reply back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): He says he will be very busy, he is going to be gone for a month and a half, I don't think he has the time to really think about you so much while he is in training, it really takes up all of your time what with the homework they give you.
I would send him an email or a birthday wish, make it simple and then wait for his reply....if you don't hear anything in two weeks then I wouldn't worry about it, he has your email right? If he wants you to have it he will send you an email back with the new address....otherwise I would just wait to hear from him. If he says he will definately keep in touch, then he probably will, but I wouldn't put all your energy into this one guy, go out with some others why don't you....this guy sounds a bit unavailable to anyone not just you.
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