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writes: when i was in my early teens i slept with lots of guys.i think i did this because i wanted to feel loved by a man and my father wasnt around. i think now that iv gotten over that point in my life it is affecting my relationships. i dont enjoy sex and i cant be happy with men that i genuinely like and love. are my younger years making it harder for me to enjoy sex?and what can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Yos  +, writes (25 September 2006):
 You need to forgive yourself for your past behaviour, if you haven't already. It's good that you got over it, and you should give yourself a big pat on the back for doing so. Well done. Many people get well into their twenties and thirties before they realize that sex isn't going to lead to love and happiness.
There are probably things about yourself that you need to explore further. I'd suggest focussing less on your relationships with men and on sex and love, and instead focus more on your relationship with yourself. By exploring that you may find things lurking under the surface that are the real causes of your relationship problems.
Sometimes the cause is not where you think it is. Look in unlikely places.
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
 Maybe because sex was always with someone you didn't love that you have built yourself up to thinking when it is with someone you love it will be something out of this world and are a little disappointed, or even finding the past is getting in the way of you relaxing and enjoying yourself.
You need to let go of the past and try and move on from it because although you thought sleeping with loads of people gave you the love and attention you wanted it never did all it did was strip you of everything and is now standing in the way of being truely happy sexually with someone that actually loves you and isn't walking out the door in the morning and not coming back.
Good luck :o)
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