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writes:Helloooooo dear AuntyzeeeeeeeeeeHope you are in best of your health and wealth, so that to answer my question. Naaw the story begainzzz like this.I was having an relationship with a married women for 4 years. We have seen many ups and downs together in this time into our relatonship. We are working in same office, her husband was having a doubt of our relationship and used to ask her often, to confirm about this. But now he is getting so possesive that he's forcing her to change her job just because of his doubt about our relationship which he has not confirmed. Now my problem is that niether she wants to leave her husband nor I can leave her. Please Please Please tell me how it could be settled down. I know all the auntyzz are best here so I hope to get response from all of you. 10x a ton. Take Care. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): I would tell you that there is something wrong with the marriage if she hangs onto you for things that she is missing at home. The things that her husband and family provide are security. Have you asked her if she wants out of the marriage or what she wants. Tell her to stop letting her husband control her if he wants to save the marriage shame on him for letting it go on for 4 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): It's never easy to walk away from a loving relationship. But think about her and what the situation is doing to her family. I'm sure you can find the right match someday, just try harder to look around you.
Getting involved with someone married does provide the thrill and excitement, but it can also leave you feelings of insecurities. Please think hard, how do you see yourself years from now and still pining for the love of this woman? Think...
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (21 November 2008):
 OOOPS! I sent the post and Forgot to mention the fact that you should never try to take someone elses Wife it's WRONG! The fact he wants her to move is because he is probably making a last attempt to save his marriage.
*Just a note......She may not want to leave him because She might love him............Sounds strange but it could be true. At any rate you need to let her go and leave her to her own misery. One that you won't be helping to create.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (21 November 2008):
Your best bet is to just let her go. She has already made her choice and you clearly aren't it. She is a married woman and chances are if she feels this way now she probably isn't going to change her mind.
The relationship that you have with her isn't fair to her husband or to YOU! You are settling for second best. :-( You should find someone who is AVAILABLE and make the most of your life. After all 4 years of it has already gone by and she still chooses him. This should surely be telling you something!
If you are a devoted and loving man there are plenty of women out there who would just jump at the chance to be your's. YOU WORK TOO! Single women with no ties! Women who can care for you and love you the way you deserve. Besides having an affair is a bad thing and if the husband has already suspected you, your life could be in danger or hers! Think it over, you might conclude that none of this is worth what you are putting either of you thru.
Be man enough to walk away and save yourself from being put 2nd place because she isn't likely to leave anyway. She is using you for her own needs, it's a selfish thing to do and so sad. She has broken her vows and if she even left and decided to get with you chances are she will repeat the affair with someone else!
BE WISE and LEARN to be happy without her, it's the BEST thing for all concerned. FIND SOMEONE who can give their ALL to ONLY YOU!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 November 2008):
 Tell her husband what you just told us, I'll bet he'll settled it down for you (whatever "it" is).
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): You really are in denial. If this has been going on for 4 years, then I'm sure her husband has figured it out. He's trying to protect his marriage which is a Good thing. Don't you have any guilt for trying to destroy it? How can you sleep at night? It's very unmanly to prey on a taken woman instead of finding your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): ....and your question is what, exactly? Please define 'it'.
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