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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes: The girls at work seem to like me and there is no shortage of flirting. However, there is this girl who always has a go at me. Whatever she can she will disturb me. If I am playing a computer game, she will deliberately come behind me and press a button on my game so that I need to start all over again and lose the game I was playing. The same if I am writing a message or email, she attempts to wipe it all out. She takes water for her self and passing me throws some over me. Makes fun of what I say, etc. etc. I have threatened revenge but it doesn't stop her. I have even complained to our manager, who doesn't seem to take it seriously. He told me "she's probably fond of you and wants your attention". I can't work this out as other girls who like me, do whatever they can to be nice to me. What's going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2013): OP here. Thanks Dorothy. Since I wrote this she has "come out" to me. She asked me to take her home after work and she told me in front of others "I love you". So it seems you are correct...
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (11 July 2013):
Hi there. It is possible that this girl who teases you and annoys you, IS trying to get your attention.
And it seems that she has your attention, doesn't it?
Why not just walk up to her and ask her?
Or, you could wait until she goes to the kitchen to make herself a cuppa, and ask her then.
Just make sure of course, that she is on her own.
Or another option, is when she is at her desk, walk up to her and quietly ask if she could meet you when it is her break.
And that you want to talk to her about something.
And you could leave the building, and that will be a great opportuntiy to ask her straight out.
You could say - "Why do you keep on doing those things? Are you trying to get my attention?"
And see what she says.
It does seem like that to me, and perhaps she is a bit shy, and so she takes the playful approach - by teasing or whatever else she does.
There is nothing quite like the direct approach.
When you ask her a direct question, she will most likely give you a direct answer.
And then you will know.
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