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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:dear cupid, my boyfriend and i dated for almost two months and he left me on a "break" after i wanted a break first and tried to take it back, i know it was stupid but i was confused, then he didn't talk to me for two days and sent me a text saying we needed a break ... that was about a two weeks ago and we haven't talked since ... he wanted space so i gave it to him and we haven't talked since but he tried to get his ex girlfriend back ... we talked for three months before we actually dated because he was hung up on her and he left me to wait on her but she won't date him ... what does this mean??? i know were not getting back together or anything but did i ever mean anything? did he want her the whole time we were together? did he cheat on me with her? why won't he talk to me? my heart is so broken please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): First off I am sorry that you are feeling heartbroken. The bad news is that it won't be the last time, the good news is that you will be happy again and you will date someone else.
This guy that is hung up on his ex is not "ready" for a new girlfriend...he is on the rebound which means that he is trying to put a salve on his wounds by dating someone new and this rarely works. He needed a break because he isn't ready, he needs to heal his wounds and you would be best to be understanding and leave him be. He isn't into you for that reason probably...but sitting around trying to find a logical reason for an emotional decision is a waste of your time and emotional energy.
Let it go....it is not important what he thinks of you or thought of you really. Get your self esteem back by asking if he is good enough for you, are you willing to be dumped for someone else or wait around for him to make up his mind? That seems pathetic doesn't it? Just get busy with school, your girlfriends, your boy friends and your family and you will be back to feeling not heart broken, but relieved you didn't get more involved with someone who isn't ready for you.
Take care and cheer up.....this isn't about YOU.
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