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writes:Hey.Ive been with my boyfreind for almost nine months and recently we started having sex. But im confused because before we do it i feel so ready and i want to. But after we do it i always feel bad. im not quite sure what it is that i feel but i know its not a good emotion! its almost like a guilt feeling.. so i said to myself i will leave it for a while until i know i wont feel bad after, but the thing is i dont know if im going to feel bad after we've done it because it feels so right when we're doing it! (i know that probably dosent make sense but plz try to understand =]) I thought i maybe feeling this way because its our first sexual relationship so we always try and make the sex nice and special, but that never seems to happen. Your veiws on why i might be feeling this way will be much appreciated =] thankyou!! x Reply to this Question
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reader, SammyJo92 +, writes (11 March 2009):
im 17 neally and after i have sex with my boyfriend i feel down after its like i have a rush though out sex and then i go downhill after like a sugerrush. mine is he pleases me so much i feel to good and then go down its werid
If it felt right your not to young, well you are if you 13 lol but if you boyfriend feels like 'the one' then its ok!
you should be okay! Follow your heart sweety x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): Your too young to have sex.
You feel guilty because you know that you are too young.
What is the rush?...you have your whole life to live.
If I asked you everytime I drink a cup of coffee it gives me a headache, what would you tell me to do?
Exactly!! If you feel guilty, you are not ready. Don't rush yourself....and don't let some guy whose name you will forget 3 years from now rush you either. And trust me, you will forget this person. Why because how much have your grown between 10 and 15? Well you expect that same amount of mental and emotional growth between 15-20 and again between 20-25 and again between 25-30. I'm sure you know everything there is to know already so imagine what you will know by the age of 20, 25 or 30?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Don't take this the wrong way, please.
You aren't ready for sex. That simple. You want to have it because you want to please your BF. You might even get turned on yourself, it doesn't mean you are ready.
Girls are "raised" to be pure and "virginal" for a long as possible. And boys to be as horny as they darn please. You might feel guilty and bad because YOU know your parents would be disappointed if they knew you were having sex.
As much as you might hate this advice, I'm going to give it anyways, stop having sex for a while. Tell your BF why.
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