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30-35,
*Mfan
writes:My ex-boyfriend and I have been getting closer lately. Hanging out a lot and talking again. Yesterday before he was going to pick me up to go to the pool with him, he texted me this..."I am having mixed feelings on what to do. Like I want to date but I kinda don't. Like with school everything is a little more difficult when it is the school year. I wanna go out with you, but I don't feel like I am ready to date right now. I have been debating for the part 2 or 3 weeks whether I am ready or not. I have been on both sides plenty of times." We texted about this for a little bit until he came and picked me up at my house. Swimming just him and I didn't feel awkward at all. We talked, laughed and had a fun time. Then, we went back to his house and watched two movies. He kept asking me, "Now, it is your turn to pick what we should do." I told him, "Give me some options." He was like, "No, I can't, you are the guest so you have to pick..." So, then I asked him, "I know you have mix feelings, but can "friends" kiss?" (By the way, I gave three options of what to do and made him pick, he picked to watch another movies after I asked him that kiss question. So, we started the movie, and he was like, "Yeah, I think that is fine." So, we kissed and started making out. We held hands in the second movie and kissed a bunch of times. I know him and I are meant to be. We have so much in common and in the past while we dated for 3 months and 5 days, it was best 3 months and 5 days ever. And since the break up in January (he broke up with me) we both have matured a lot and he agreed. So, what I am asking Livewire people is... I know my ex-boyfriend likes me, and I am going to wait for him to be ready to date again, but should I countinue to kiss him and hang out with him alone? P.S. Since the break up, he dated one person for 3 months and broke up with her because she and him never hung out because she was just too busy for him. I dated 3 days, and they didn't last because I only wanted to be with my ex-boyfriend.
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reader, texasgirl07 +, writes (9 July 2009):
It is not good for you to still be kissing him all the time if you still have feelings for him...
And you said that he broke up with you because he wasn't ready to date yet he dated someone else that just doesn't sound right.
If he wants to be with you he would be. But you need to stop making out with him and hanging out so much because its like ya never broke up.
Maybe if you spend less time with him he will see how much you mean to him and want you back.
Try hanging out with him a a big group to help you not kiss him and try dating other guys just go out and have fun. Keep your self busy. Your have so much ahead of you and living the single life is loads of fun and nothing to be afraid of! There are tons of guys and you will find the one just give it time!
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reader, Jane Dashwood  +, writes (8 July 2009):
You guys broke up for a reason. I know it seems harsh but from my point of view he's using as the fall back girl. I don't know how long you were broken up but the fact is he got over you and was with someone for three months. I personal am a person who beleives that if a couple breaks up it is best for them to stay apart. You may have a lot in common and you may make great friends,but that is just it FRIENDS. Don't do the whole on again off again thing it is unhealthy and you both could pass up a chance to be with people that make you not juts feel good about yourselves but great.Hang out with him if you must as long as you aren't alone, don't get drunk around each other that will mess up things people do stupid things when they are drunk. Give each other space go out meet people date you are young you have your whloe life ahead of you, right now you are falling back on what is familiar and safe.And most importantly keep in mind that if it's meant to be it will happen don't push it, it will taint the good memories you have about the relationship.
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