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writes:Well ok i confronted my friend and my girlfriend about a situation i posted earlier... they told me they talked on the phone but just on a friendship level.. nothing above... and they didnt even talk much... but i asked her have i ever called and she was on the phone with him she says "Yea i told him gtg its him on the phone"... but i wonder what they could have been talkin about... they say they dont remember cause it was harmless... Am i just tripen.. am i paranoid... but my feeling is telling me everything isnt being told... i asked him why would u call her or she call you... he says "Cause they're friends and that's what friends do" but I asked him why would he call her and not me He says "i was always never home and when i did talk to you you said you were handling buisness.. so i just got bored and called her"... I didnt know what to say... i asked her the same thing she said ... i thought he was my friend also since you did introduce us.. I asked her why would you call him and i know they talked about more than what their telling me... cause what sparked my thoughts was that she told me i called her and she was on the phone with him but she told him she had to go cause i was calling...I wanna know what they talked about... I know it was something above friendship and someone is lying... I'm just now finding out they talked on the phone as "Friends"... if it was just friends they could have told me. I said this to her and she says i never asked... how was I supposed to know they were talking.. it makes me so angry. Some things they remember... somethings they cant... and I know every convo they had wasnt just about what they tell me if they talked just 10 times... or more (i know they talked more than 10 times).
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reader, Missioncircle1 +, writes (19 June 2009):
Missioncircle1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well they tell me they talked like 2 years ago..and i just wanna know about what i find it weird that i was never told they talked before...and i find it akward they i asked her have i called before and they were on the phone she said yea but she says she told him she has to go its me..he tells me it was like silence on the phone some what when they talked..and then the phone..and it would be like "O yea have you watched smallvile" she would be like " o yeaa..etc etc."...then it would be quiet..then her phone would be and she would say she had to go...my thing is if it was quiet like that...why not get call me
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (19 June 2009):
 Listen. You're never going to get the entire conversation, and really, I don't think it matters. Whenever I talk to friends, I don't remember everything that I talked about. I'm sure this has happened to your girlfriend as well. So I would just settle down about the details. It happened and you aren't going to know one hundred percent. Now onto the fact that they are calling each other. There might be more than just friendship in the mix, especially in the case of your friend, but I don't believe anything has happened yet (as far as cheating goes). It's kind of strange that your friend calls her instead of you, and that your girlfriend hasn't told you about it before. I personally would never go out of my way to talk to my boyfriend's guy friends (other than the occasional wall post on facebook) without my guy around. It just seems inappropriate and awkward. It's one thing to get along with your boyfriend's guy friends, but another to take it an initiative to have one on one time. This is obviously really bothering you, so I would just tell your girlfriend that you feel really uncomfortable with the situation. If she respects you, she will DEFINITELY understand in this situation and stop talking to your friend. Otherwise, you might have problems. And if they are going to talk, they will go out of their way to lie to you about it either way after you confront them. The best thing to do is sit down and talk about it to the both of them, and if that doesn't work, you might have to consider breaking up. Because a relationship isn't anything without trust.
But I would totally feel the same way you do. What if you were always calling up one of her girlfriend's? I very much doubt she would like it. Good luck!
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