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writes: My first kiss was with my cousin. my family lived down the road from my aunt and uncles and when I was about 12 and my cousin was 14 I think we started to like each other. Im not sure how it started but he would grab my butt..I guess I didnt really mind because hes pretty hot and I guess I liked him. Well..we havent had sex or anything but he has fingered me and I've touched his penis and everything. Whenever we were in the basement or garage or somewhere alone (because we didnt want anybody to know) we would do that or hold hands kiss. Hes now 16 (almost 17) and I'm 14 (almost 15). And now that we moved we dont see each other anymore and i kind of miss him. So my question is, What do I do about liking my cousin because I know its bad. Do I just forget about everything? Please help.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (1 April 2006):
 Please please please. Femal anon. STOP SHOUTING!
And there rest of you, there is nothing ileagal in 1st cousins having relationships so stop being so bl**dy arrogant and nasty.
This sort of experimentation can lead to problems. If you get carried away then you could end up pregnat and then how will your families react? If you really like each other then maybe this relationship can develop. Take it really slowly.
As for the stupid and puerile comments from people who hide behind their anonymity, when first cousins have children (which given the ages of the two here is hardly something they will be planning in the near future!) they are offered genetic screening and counselling should anything show up. So how about leave them alone and give them some advice instaed of behaing like idiots.
Twistedsecret, you are doing nothing wrong in having feelings for your cousin. This realtionship is not ileagal in the UK and neither is it unhealthy. It may cause problems for you with your family. Find somebody who doesnt judge you can talk to and confide in them.
Good luck
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reader, xXxBabymamaXxX +, writes (1 April 2006):
 Is your cousin blood related... if he is- STOP, what your doing is wrong and unhealty, serious sexual transmitted diseses can be passed by what you and your cousin are expeirimenting... he is 17 and should no better,if your parents found out they could have him arrested for rape... imagine the shame and embarresment you would bring on your family, Im sorry but this relantionship has to end, its wrong and unhealty! laura, 16
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2006): WHAT WERE YOU THINKING LETTING HIM FINGER YOU AND YOU TOUCHING HIS PENIS?YOUR BLOOD RELATED.THIS IS AN AWFUL THING AND IT IS ILLEGAL IN SOME COUNTRIES I THINK IT MAY STILL BE ILLEGAL IN THIS.YOU NEED TO NEVER DO ANYTHING LIKE THIS AGAIN AND WHEN YOU SEE HIM STAY NEAR SOMEONE WHO YOU WON'T LEAVE E.G YOUR MUM.IF YOU WERE TO HAVE SEX AND YOU FELL PREGNAN YOUR BABY BE DEFORMED.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (14 March 2006):
 Get out there and meet new people and forget about your feelings for your cousin.
Obviously you can't ignore him or not see him ever again, he is family but I would avoid another encounter at all costs when you do see him.
I would get out there and meet new people, take up a new sport or a new after school activity. Get to know more people at school who you don't know well. Join a club or start a new hobby.
Meet new people who are not related to you and in no time you will meet a brand new guy who may just be a new love interest.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2006): You *can't* forget about him - he's family, and you two are stuck with each other regardless of what happens between you. While this advice may not provide any comfort to you now, you have years ahead of you to mature and meet other guys. As the years go on you may find the one that will treat you right and worship you like a queen. That's the real prize, and you'll be one of the lucky ones if you can find that guy. But you will have to be patient.
Your experimentation with your cousin is all about sex, and not love. It would be a shame to let your hormones get in the way of learning about true love. What feels good now isn't necessarily good for you. Good luck!
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