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reader, GRSHHogwarts  +, writes (7 December 2014):
GRSHHogwarts is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2014): You think you will be unaffected if he rebuffs you, but it will let the steam right out of you. Most of the contributors here have all had the experience of unrequited love. And we would rather spare you the expense, but if we do that you will never learn.
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reader, GRSHHogwarts +, writes (5 December 2014):
GRSHHogwarts is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni do care about what he says but i wont take it badly or pearsonly if he says no and i know he will still talk to me if he doesnt feel the same way coz a couple of years ago my friend forced me to tell him so i did but i didnt realy get an straight awnser from him but we are still best friends.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 December 2014):
 "I really don't care what will happen between us"
what if he says "oh NO i don't feel that way and I can't be friends with you any more if you feel that way" ?
IF you don't really care what he says (and I think you do) and you tell him and he then refuses to ever talk to you again is that ok?
See OP what we are trying to do is get you to be honest with yourself.... not with us...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2014): If you haven't had the courage to tell him, could that be because you're not sure, or afraid of how he will take it?
Would you be a little embarrassed telling him?
If it's really important to get it off your chest and just see what happens, I guess you've thought this out. You just feel he has to know. That's fine. Just be prepared for whatever happens once you do it. Telling someone you love them will get some-kind of reaction. That reaction could be good, or not what you want. Don't tell him unless you can handle it either way, that is all I'm suggesting.
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reader, GRSHHogwarts +, writes (4 December 2014):
GRSHHogwarts is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont realy care what happens between us after i tell him i just wanna let him know coz i have liked him for a long time. He deserves to know but i havent had the courage to tell him yet
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 December 2014):
OP,
while i have done as you requested and answered your question, I do not think that you will be happy with what may happen after you tell him.
There is a reason folks are concerned that you do not tell him.
I have a question for you... WHAT do you WANT to happen after you tell him?
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reader, GRSHHogwarts +, writes (3 December 2014):
GRSHHogwarts is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks So_Very_Confused
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 December 2014):
since you will probably not be able to say it I suggest you get a lovely holiday card and write it on the card and hand him the card.
As you hand it to him you can say "i wrote something special on the inside for you"
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reader, CMMP +, writes (3 December 2014):
The most common way to say I love you is by by saying the words "I love you".
Did you really need advice for that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2014): Woah you asked for advice and people are giving it to you don't "attack" people just because you don't like what some people write , this does not show how "adult" you are it shows how childish you are and that would put off any boy you need to sort yourself out before speaking with this boy you seem full of anger sort that first
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 December 2014):
 "Hi my dear friend, I want to let you know that I love you."
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reader, GRSHHogwarts +, writes (2 December 2014):
GRSHHogwarts is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni am pretty sure that i asked HOW should i tell him not IF i should tell him last time i checked How and If are pretty different. im not asking the same question again till i get the awnser i wanna hear. i just wanna know HOW not IF.... so plz tell me HOW to tell him
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2014): im sure ive already replied to this question before as it says exactly the same things as the last question. it seems you are asking the same question until someone tells you what you really want to hear.to be mature you accept things and dont repeat things. you do not know what its like to be in love you think you do but its lust . my son is the same age as you and i asked him and his friends what they would do if a girl told them she loved them , they looked at me as if i was mad and said 1, distance himself from her. 2, laugh it off and hope she was messing about 3, wouldnt want to hang out like they did it put him off 4 , wouldnt want to hang about with her. yes all lads are different but you need to grow up and enjoy life not declare your undying love for a guy thats in another country and clearly cant have a realtionship with and as for a long distance relationship most fail and if you did "get together" at your age itll fade and youll have real people in your lives who you can spend more time with other than a handful of times a year. you hardly see the lad so u will build up things in your head that hes the best in the world love him and everything will work out and be the best but reality its not like that
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2014): Look him in the eyes and take a breath and say the words. I-LOVE-YOU!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (2 December 2014):
I think it would be a mistake tottell him you love him at this point. It may be true, but if he's not on the same page as you it could scare him away, which would obviously not be what you want.
Instead, make it obvious that you like him. Ask him to do things with you that will allow you to spend quality time together. I'm not sure what to suggest at your age, it depends a lot on your exact age and what your parents allow.
You have to build up to "I love you." Start with more quality time, then flirting, then it'll become obvious to him. He still may be too shy to make the move, but you'll be able to read his body language to see how he feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2014): At your age, it is quite alright to to tell your best friend that you love him. Wait a little while longer before you tell him you're in-love with him. There is so much you and he have to learn, before you tell him you're "in-love" with him.
Girls are a little more mature than boys at your age. So he may not handle it very well, or may not return the feelings in the same way.
You can tell anyone that you love them; if they really mean a lot to you. It would be better if you gave both of you a little more time; until you're old enough to say you are "in-love" in a romantic way. Once you learn and understand more about what that really means; then you'll be absolutely sure that is how you really feel. You will also be old enough to handle it better; if he doesn't return the same kind of feelings.
If you think it wouldn't hurt your feelings too badly if you told him and he didn't feel the same way; then it might be okay. I think you're just a little too young to mean it that way right now.
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