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writes:I'm leaving school in a week and im really scared....my mum and step dad expect A's and B's in my GCSE's and i know im not getting them and i dont wana let them down!...i need 2 talk to them but im worried! i also am nearly 16 and never allowed out my friends are always laughing about me coz im always at home.. i miss all the birthdays and partys wat can i do?? xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206 +, writes (8 May 2007):
 Okay, you can't change what will be much now but you can show your parents that you're trying. You need to put everything else on hold until the exams are over and study your ass off! If they see you making a huge effort towards your exams then they can't be disappointed if you don't do as well as they hoped because they know you tried. I'm not going to lie to you, studying all the time is not fun, but it is part of being 16, 18 or 21 depending on how long you choose to keep studying. It's worth sacrificing your fun for a few weeks if it means the chance at a brighter future.
As for your parents not letting you out much remember that you're still relatively young. Maybe you need to show them you can be trusted and take responsibility for yourself and your own actions now before they can see that you're an adult. Studying hard for your exams is one way of showing them that.
Good luck with everything.
CD
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (8 May 2007):
 You need to ask yourself have you done ALL you can at school? Are you doing the best of that you are capable of?
Your parents probably know what you are capable of, maybe more than you realise. They mean well, most parents do; they just want the best for their children and have to be cruel sometimes to be kind.
At the end of the day your parents might be disapointed in your grades, but will you be? Don't kid yourself this, your age is an important stage where education is important whether you think so or not.
On the other hand if you put 100% into your work and you feel pressured with all this, then i am sure they will be ok if you let them know how hard you have worked; but that needs to be asked of yourself and you need to be truthful about that.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (7 May 2007):
 Hi there, sweetness.
I know you're not going to like my advice, but it sounds like to me that your parents don't let you go out maybe because of your grades? To get freedom, you need to earn it. If you do get good grades, I'll bet you can talk to your parents and talk them into letting you go out a little more often.
As for your grades this term, you need to own up to them. Go ahead and let them know before they see your report card, and make a plan to heighten your grades for next term. Maybe think about getting a tutor? If you discuss MATURELY with your parents what you can do, maybe they'll grant you a little more lenience.
If you want to be treated like an adult, you have to act like one. Trust me, parents love that.
Good luck, sweetness.. I know school sucks, but do your best and the rest of your life you'll be thanking yourself.
xxIndia
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reader, **** +, writes (7 May 2007):
 you need to sit down and talk to your mum and step dad. i was the same when i was at school i didnt get what my parents wanted me to get but i still managed to go to college and get qualifications in childcare and i have a great job. as for them never letting you they should understand that your young and need your friends around you even if you say to them that going out a couple of times a week really isnt going hurt tell them that your missing out on things with your friends and its upsetting you they should understand they were young once too.
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