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male
age
36-40,
*ysocalledlife
writes:Dear, cupid i'm so confused please help me. There's this girl that i'm crazy about. we met about 5 years ago. we r the best friends she knows how i feel about her. I know deep down she feels the same i'm so convinced that we where made 4 each other. i treat her better than any man she ever had. And she knows this. But She dose not wont 2 hook up.What do i need 2 do? I refuse 2 give up on her.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 September 2007):
 In short: give up.
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reader, mysocalledlife +, writes (20 September 2007):
mysocalledlife is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you 4 try 2 uderstand my situation. But there's something i did'nt mention we stop hanging out with each other 4 about 4 month's i wonted 2 give her some time 2 think about what i have 2 offer. Now during this time i tried 2 do EVERY thing 2 get her out of my system but nothing worked.recently we had the chance 2 hang out and i notice that her life is OUT OF CONTROL she's hanging out with the wrong people. I wont 2 save her before its 2 late..she still just wonts 2 be friends----oh yeah we never became lovers just friends.so what should i do i dont wont to give up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): pls hepe me they is this girl in my shcool i love here so much.one dey i wokerup to here i telle here ilove/an she side she havesome one the she is gowin out/wet an i call here on the phone an too me she is seck.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (20 September 2007):
My advice is, give up on her as a lover. Women are far quicker than men in assessing who is relationship material. All your good qualities, she noticed long before you knew they existed. So, she knows you're good, but you're not the man she wants.
Spare yourself the heartache, man. Keep this as friends.
I would also need to warn you that sometimes you "feel" that the other party wants you because you project your own feelings. Are you sure she wants you as much as you do?
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (20 September 2007):
 sometimes friendship is better than a relationship because there is no trials and tribulations and awkwardness if you split up. unfortunately you cannot pressure her or make her have feelings for you which she mustn't have if she has told you she wants nothing more than friendship and you should respect her wishes. however strong your connection is with her, she sees you as a good friend and probably recognises the importance of irreplaceable friends. it's not easy but you need to try and understand that your not going to be any more and nothing you say or do will convince her otherwise.
good luck
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