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writes:I overanalyze everything and my new topic of overanalyzing is my bf. Im starting to doubt my love thinking, what if i dont love him? Is this a fear and how do I stop this fear down? Before this, I was SO HAPPY and still am but now when i meet him im analyzing him,oh hes not as cute as this actor, and just being so picky. The truth is, i know he's right for me, his heart is like gold, hes a good person, but i think yea hes a good person BUT (SEE I always put a but for no reason) so ill say, but do i love him? There's really no problem with him, hes amazing, maybe Im getting bored of him (its almost been a year) We went through a break and i was DEVASTATED I hated not talking to him, even now if i dont talk to him i hate it, hes always on my mind, I love thinking about him, I wanna marry him but I just worry and get anxious like, is this real? Are my feelings real or just in my head? Im just thinking too much, how do i stop thinking?
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reader, idontgetit12321 +, writes (22 June 2008):
 if you know hes right for you then why do you keep doubting him. just keep telling yourself "hes right", "hes perfect". and be more open with him. you should talk to him about these thoughts you have been having. maybe he could help you stop having these thoughts. you kinda sound like a perfectionist, but you have to remember no one is perfect.
or maybe your just afraid to let yourself love him, maybe your afraid of getting hurt. but if thats true then your never going to be happy with any guy, and this relationship with him now is doomed because of that.
so open up yourself, talk to him, be one with him, thats how love is suppose to be.
Hope this helped.
Good Luck!!!
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reader, Oceania  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 I think you are not familiar with being okay in your relationship. I dont know if you understand me. I mean he is awsome, you have been together for almost a year or so, and you start looking him some flaws because:
#1: he is too perfect and you cant believe it.
#2: you are tired of your relationship and your looking for some stupid reason to break up.
Think about that. If its number 1, then start to believe its real what is happening to you! you found the love of your life.
If its number 2, then its time to talk to your boyfriend, your not happy anymore.
good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Stop doubting everything; stop asking questions;
start saying THANK YOU for all the good qualities and all the good things.
That way you will change your thoughts!
Try it, it works!
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