I know he needs help..he's got real issues, but I love him

A female age 51-59, *inkie67 writes:

iv been married three times, i have 4 kids. all my husbands abused me. over a year ago i met a lovely guy through the paper. he was lovely, in time tho, he got real jelous, i couldnt speak to males, old male friends id known for years, couldnt call, my boyfrind slapped me if my phone rang,he never been married, or has kids, never been in a longterm relationship, or lived with someone, he was 39, i plodded on, trying, then he took a knife, said he would stab me, i know he didnt mean it. looses his temper when he cant get his own way, calls me slag. We dont live together, as he is commitment phobic, dosnt like sharing anything, he is so tight with money. I pay for everything, he were the same jumper everyday, only has his hair cut once year. He is close to his parents, but i feel he is a mummys boy, we go there every sunday to eat, his mum does his washing, and interfears to much. everything he says, is what his mum says, cant speak for hinself. He chose to spend christmas there, they have him all these years, but i couldnt have him for one day. now he wont take me out incase there are men around, so we sit in his all time, he wont take me to visit my mum, its all about what he wants, my kids dont like him much, but try, he dosnt bother with them much, when he stays at mine, he dosnt make the effort, my young boy recently started ignoring him, last week he called me and said, im not coming down for you, he said because of my lad ignoring him, he then screamed down phone, hurling abuse, he would break my kids neck, my older lad took the phont, then my boyfriend told my lad he would kill him. I couldnt believe it. My best mate hasnt met him, just said he sounds weird, seen a pic, said he dosnt rock her boat, this was on the phone, my boyfriend said he would stab her, that every girl should fancy him ,if not he would stab him, trouble is, despite all this i love him, i know he must need help. he does love me. he even said the other week, he was a ghost, after hiding behind a curtain and jumping out on me, he said he had died last year, and was pushed over a cliff. knocked once for yes, twice for no, why he doing strange things, how can i help. he can be really nice at times, thats the person i love.

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